What do you think?

[dipper]

DH is planning on appealing last court hearing.  Judge used his judgement that ss (14) was manipulating everyone as his entire basis for BM retaining custody.  Problem is...case was heard on January 19th..GAL and dh's lawyer have signed order, but the hold up appears to be BM's lawyer.   the judge ordered for ss to have counseling - the GAL would choose counselor based on parents recommendations....and the cost would be split equally (though normally dh has to pay 75%).  Meanwhile, since the order has not been signed, bm has already began ss' counseling and tells dh she will let him know what was said and how much it costs.  She notified dh in writing AFTER counseling began.

They have joint legal, but she will NOT let him know about appointments and school meetings.  DH specifically requested this notice and she has been on a roll ever since attending appts and meetings and then sending him the information.  

She also took a weekend of visitation this month.  Wont even discuss make-up time.

She is telling dh that he has to pay HER lawyer money for representing ss on legal matters.  Now, dh told her last year he was NOT agreeable to her lawyer representing ss due to conflict of interest.....he represents her in custody and ss in delinquency matters.....what if he could keep ss out of juvy by suggesting he live with his dad...He cannot do it..she is his client as well....

She is also accusing dh of grilling ss because he caught her in a lie due to something ss told him.....Actually she has been telling her family that dh does this for awhile to explain why ss doesnt want to live with her ......

She threatened in writing to, 'grill ss about every minute he is in your home if you dont stop.'

She is blaming dh for an unpaid bill that he requested 8 months ago and she would never forward (all of ss bills actually from hospitalization)

So, we typed up a memo-style letter concerning the denial of visitation, the demands for payments to her lawyer, and the issue of her not telling dh anything ahead of time so that he can attend.  We also are sending two papers....one with a visitation schedule spelled out.....and another with specifics for joint legal.....

We are planning on sending this to her....cc her laywer, dh's lawyer, and the GAL.  

Now, I doubt she will give this any thought, but if she should agree...it may save an appeal motion.........

Do you think this sounds okay?