I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO MY DAUGHTER?

[fathers4custody]

I HAVE COURT THIS WEEK, BUT LET'S NOT TALK ABOUT THAT FOR A CHANGE.
MY MAIN PROBLEM IS:     AFTER MISSING HALLOWEEN, THANKSGIVING, CHRISTMAS EVE, CHRISTMAS DAY, NEW YEARS EVE, NEW YEARS DAY, WITH NO CONTACT WHAT SO EVER, EVEN TELEPHONE.  I DON'T THINK I GAVE UP CALLING, AFTER NUMEROUS HANG-UPS, 'SHE'S NOT HERE', ' YOU CAN'T TALK TO HER'.  IT'S BEEN SO LONG, THE LAST TWO WEEKS I HAVE NOT EVEN TRIED.  I'M NOT SURE WHAT TO SAY TO MY DAUGHTER, SHE'S 9,.
IT'S LIKE I'M EMBARRASED OR SOMETHING!!~!  I HAVE NEVER BEEN SO APART WITH HER.  I LIVE ABOUT 100 MILES FROM HER.  FRIDAY I WENT TO HER SCHOOL AND LEFT A BACKPACK FULL OF GOODIES AND 30.OO FOR HER.., AND I CHANGED MY CELL PHONE NUMEBER TO HER TOWN SO SHE CAN CALL ME FREE. I PUT THE NUMBER IN HER BACKPACK WITH THE PRESENTS AND ALL.  LEFT IT AT THE OFFICE, SAYING SHE LEFT THIS AT HOME.
ANYWAY, SO WHAT THE XXXXXXXXX AM I OR DO I SAY TO HER???????????LIFE SUCKS

[Indigo Mom]

-----I'M NOT SURE WHAT TO SAY TO MY DAUGHTER, SHE'S 9,.-----

You say what you feel like saying...and always tell her how much you love her.  Ask her about school, friends, how she's feeling...etc etc etc.

-----IT'S LIKE I'M EMBARRASED OR SOMETHING!!~! I HAVE NEVER BEEN SO APART WITH HER. -----

I know how you feel...but I don't think it's embarrassed.  It's lost.  You feel lost.  You were once a parent, now you're being phased out.  You feel terrible, confused, angry.  (maybe even homicidal)  Never stop calling her, even though you know you'll hear those dreaded words.  Never give up.  She's still your daughter, you just have this huge roadblock in the way.  


What's the court date for?

[Brent]

Please stop typing in ALL CAPS. It makes it difficult to read your messages and also looks like you're "shouting".