Combating Alienation in court.....the right way.

[MixedBag]

I have a friend who is the NCP.  For the last 4 years, the CP has worked very hard to push and replace the NCP in the lives of their two children.

Well, today....there was court.  They were ordered to have an evaluation done and here's what the evaluator said on the stand:  (well, close at least, I thought it was an awesome way to say ALIENATION without using the word)

"The evaluator was awesome, never saying brainwashed or alienated, but using words like, Son being told things he had no way of remembering, Son overhearing adult things, Son being convinced of things his CP and brother believe to be true, Son being subjected to choose on parent over the other, Son being convinced living without one parent in his life was perfect and good for him, Son being harassed by his CP and brother for reporting a good visit or session with his NCP, Son constantly put in the middle by his CP and brother and feeling pressured to choose and feeling like he had to make a decision for his peace of mind,"

Notice -- I changed it all to be gender neutral....

I am a mother and most of you know that....but have dealt with both a custodial mother and father who were headed in this direction, so both genders can be guilty.

Bottom line is that the CHILD looses  in the long run when this stuff starts happening....

And now this NCP can start turning things around and going back to becoming part of their child's life.

And yes, the CP/Step-parent was blamed by the evaluator for the direction everything was going and was found to be totally overbearing in the whole situation.

The CP and Step-parent could not find ONE good thing to say about the NCP and that spoke volumes to the evaluator.

Think about it......when's the last time you said something positive about your child's other parent????  At one time, there WAS something....and even if it was for one night.

As so life goes on.

[FatherTime]

Thank you.

I may have to ask the court to assign an evaluator in my case.

I'm still not sure if I want to continue.  This was helpful.

FatherTime

[MixedBag]

You're quite welcome!

I was just talking with someone at church last night and they asked "Well, what do the boys/children want?"

I said "That's just it, at this point, it doesn't matter what they want.  After listening to their (dad in this case who did it), they don't want to go see mom, but it's all based on their dad's actions which aren't right.  It will be a long road and hopefully their (awesome) counselor can successfully lead the kids back to the path they should have been on in the first place."

So "folks" still don't get it EVEN when national news stories hit the front pages of this type of stuff.