Could this be the start of sexual abuse allegation?

[onedaddy]

We are currently in the middle of a custody battle.  We have proved BM has lied over and over in the course of 2 days.  The judge ordered the christmas holiday be split.  And the children are with us for the 4 days after christmas and then back with BM for the remainder of the vacation.

Saturday night DH and I had an argument and I went up to bed.  DH watched TV on the couch with SD(8) and SS(5) where they all fell asleep until I came down to get them around 10PM.  Last night SD was sitting on daddy's lap and said he must have been having a bad dream the other night because he was rubbing here leg like he was mad while he was sleeping and she made a pinching motion.  DH is scared to death what this might materialize into.  He would slit his throat before ever hurting his children.

If SD is sick or afraid DH pulls a stool next to her bed, he never sits in bed with her.  I help with showers or baths and getting her dressed.

Any suggestions on how to avoid a sexual abuse allegation?

[MYSONSDAD]

Cover your a$$...read this so you can now what not to do

http://www.abuse-excuse.com/

[flewwellin]

if your SD has told her BM and her mother is in anyway vindictive she will probably try to start something.  I have been through some of this with my hubby's ex.  protect yourself, document everything that happens in a truthful manner if it happened that way document it that way if  CPS is involved i read off of this site demand everything in writing.  You really should read the FAQ's on Sexual abuse allegations this site offers.    flewwellin

[Lawmoe]

You can speculate all you want.   However, an allegation does require some sembalance of truth before it takes root as an offense.

First, don't despair and make sure nithing happened.

Second, don'tput yourself in a com,promising position

Third, since this is my are of specialty, DO NOT make any statements to investigators regardless of whether you think it helps or huurts you.

[onedaddy]

I am glad to here this is your area of expertise.  I would like to fill you in on a little more background info on BM...

Firstly, I am quite sure NOTHING happened, I consider myself somewhat knowledgeable on the signs of sexual abuse.  

We have been extremely careful not to allow DH to be put in such a position but it happened, they fell asleep and everything was completely innocent.  SS was there too on the same couch.

BM's credibility and the credibility of her family and new husband has been wrecked during our custody trial. She has been caught lying numerous times to the family court and she is close to losing her children.  Last year CPS closed her case for neglect against DH, immediately as "unfounded due to lack of credible evidence." We have proved in criminal court she has made false accusations against DH to the police resulting in 2 false arrests and the judge specifically stated she is "not credible" and "I do not believe a word she said" for which we have filed a small claims case against her. The forenscis evaluator in our custiody trial stated she was "deceptive" and  "sociopathic", "BPD", "Anti-social" and among other things "abuses the system to get her way" and BM "coached the chldren before they were interviewed".  I should add BM's sister lied on the stand during our trial that DH raped her when under cross she didn't think about reporting this incident that severely scarred her. and the skids SF has 20 violent arrests including one for patronizing a prostitue while living with skids and a few for domestic violence one of which landed him in jail for 2 1/2 years.

I would like to believe that with all of the above, her word would mean nothing, but I realize the word sexual abuse ways very heavy but what will take place before someone listens this is what I am afraid of.