Just wondering....

[Kent]

Hi Oldtimers!

Back with good news and some concerns....

After the ex dropped our son on my doorstep and told him he would never see her again, I kinda made her agree to EOW (she didn't care to see him at all anymore). Now he has lived with us for the last 20 months, and been with her EOW.
Of course, she refused to put anything in writing, so we still have a custody order for every other week.
She doesn't contribute a penny to his educational or sports expenses (refused to do so in writing this week).

After many arguments during his weekends with her and her telling him that he didn't have to come to her if he doesn't want to, our son (13) called her 2 weeks ago and told her he wasn't coming. After trying to guilt him for almost 45 minutes (including the usual yelling and screaming) she told him she doesn't want him in her home until he wants to come to her. So he didn't go.
This week I sent her an email asking her to confirm this (we only communicate via email), to which I got a snibby reply that he's just growing up, testing the waters seeing what he can get away with.

Today he called her again, and told her he doesn't want to come this weekend either. She was very kind to him (which was a big shock), and told him that if he didn't want to come, she didn't care that he wouldn't be there, that she loved him, and then hung up.

I know we're skating on thin ice here; she could (and would in a heartbeat) claim that I'm keeping him from her. However, his own statements will confirm to anyone who will listen that he does NOT want to see her, and that I encourage him continuously to be respectful to his mother and attempt to have a good relationship with her.
Also, she doesn't seem to want to go that route. I believe she would have contacted me, requesting me to bring him to her (which I would have done), but no such thing.

Any thoughts? (You oldtimers know what a nutcase I'm dealing with...)

Kent!

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