Don't know what to do now

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My husband found out in 2008 that he had a 8 year old daughter...that was in August. In Sept. of 2008 he started seeing her every other weekend and all holidays. Nov. 2008 he had his DNA because she was going through the state to get child support. Feb 2009, child support is started.

The whole year my husband saw his daughter every other weekend, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. He had her the whole last weekend of Feb. 2010. On March the 1st 2010 he received an email via Facebook that she would be moving to Iowa with the child in 3 days. We live in North Carolina. He tried to stop this from happening but had no luck. He got to see her that summer (summer 2010) He didn't get to see his daughter again until the summer of 2011.

While she was with us she stated she didn't want to go back to Iowa. Of course we asked why and she said it was because she didn't feel safe living with her mother, her mother's boyfriend, and the boyfriend's uncle. My husband got a lawyer in Iowa and now they are in a custody battle. Unfortunately the Iowa court did make the child go back to the mother. Even after a statement from the Guardian ad Litem saying that it was not in "the best interest of the child" to go back to the mother, and that the child would be "better served" to stay with the father.

The judge only seems to be concerned with the mother's claim that the father owed back child support, which was proven to be a false statement on her part. Court is in May 2012. My husband is doing everything he can to keep in contact with his daughter now, but they only have a cell phone at the home in Iowa, that goes straight to voicemail (that hasn't been set up) every time he calls.

We are working with the lawyer to get information together, but seeing as my husband doesn't know much about the mother except that she was married to another man at the time he was seeing her in 1999. We don't know where to go from here. We are hoping there is someone else out there that might have gone through this that can maybe guide us in a direction to help this child. Me being a mother of 4, I really don't believe she is being taken care of the way she should. With that being said being a bad mother is totally different from being an unfit mother.

Does anyone have advice or know of a case where a mother was married to another man, put that man on the birth certificate. Didn't tell the man she was married to that he was not the father (her mother did), divorced him, he got a DNA test in March 2008 and in Aug 2008 she came to the bio father and told him 8 years later he was a dad?

I know it all sounds very crazy, and there is a lot of lying and drama going on in this case. But thanks for any and all help!!!