Wednesday nite visits

[mango]

We get a Wednesday nite visit on our off weeks with SD. It's a 3 hour visit. The drive is 35-40 minutes with rush hour, and return is 25. Add dinner in the mix, it isnt' much time for visiting.

Anyway, recently her BM has been sending homework along with her on the visit. She tries to do it in the car so she can visit with her siblings at the house. After we eat dinner she plays with her siblings, and on the way home she panics that she hasn't done her homework.

Plus, my DH doesn't get to play the car games they usually do on the drive to and from. (They get points for every slug bug, mini's, element, hummers, convertables and etc. They love to play the game together)

We told her she should do HW after school, but she says she didn't have time....?

If we ignore the HW, her mom will accuse us of being irrisponsible, if we cater to this we get no visitation time (quality time).

I think her mom is trying to establish that the visits are disruptive or something. Not sure where this is leading but it has to be something. AS well as cut us out of time with her. She figures the less time with us (physically) the better.

Any suggestions?

[Kitty C.]

Yup, get in contact with the teacher.  Tell him/her that this situation is causing undo stress on SD and would it be possible to allow her extra time in school on those Weds. to get the HW done, so that she won't have to worry about it and be able to enjoy the time with her father.  If the teacher has any decency whatsoever, they will try to work with her on this.

But beware of a backlash from the BM.......

[joni]

....as ususal!