Full Custody

[cooper1045]

My situation is as follows:  My ex-GF has our 14 month old son.  This would be fine if it weren't for the fact that she is not mentally balanced and tends to do as she wants with little regard for him.  She has on many occasions driven recklessly with him in the vehicle, has failed to bathe him for days(4 or 5), failed to bring food or diapers for him on long road trips, physically attacked me while she was holding him.  Left him alone in her vehicle while she enter a dance club to find me.  At one point, she showed up at my apartment at 9 PM and, when I opened the door to talk to her, forced her way into the apartment.  While shoving her way through the door, she dropped our son on the floor and attacked me.  Yes, I did call the police, but when they arrived she told them I had invited her there and that she couldn't leave unless I gave her money.  The officer told me that if I wanted her leave I was going to have to give her money.  I refused, but he told me that he could do nothing until I gave her money for gas.  She calls dozens of times a day and leaves msgs accusing me of being a "deadbeat" even though I am paying child support.  My problem is that I was arrested for simple assualt because her and I got into a scuffle(she attacked me).  Any suggestions on what route I should take?

[VeronicaGia]

What about a restraining order on her?  Then of course you will have to ask a family court judge to force her to meet you in public places to exchange the child, or have someone else exchange the child with you in her place.

Also, get a chain lock on your door.  The next time she shows up, lock the chain but open the door.  She will have to break the chain (if she can) to get in.  Keep the receipt for the lock, proving it is new.

I hate people like this.  Hopefully someone else can help you too.

[Peanutsdad]

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