Fathers rights

[tjraid18]

  I am new to this sight and I dont know much about who any of you are or what your situaations are. I have read some of the posts and have even thrown in my two cents on a few. I posted a message in the "visitation" forum also. I'm just so dang excited about this web-site that I cant seem to contain myself, so here I go again. I have this idea that I've sort of formulated (maybe fantasy?) and would like to get some feedback on. I'ts actually something I thought of a few years ago but have never been able to share it untill now. it is this: there are so many Dads out there who have been ran over in regards to their rights with parenting time, child support, tax returns etc. The only thing most of us have gotten for our troubles in trying to be fathers is compounded grief or worse-- jail time or other legal troubles. I have talked to many in this stuation and have seen the frustration & hopelessness. And the people I talk to mostly have other people they know who are getting hammered. It seems like there are enough people out there-- why dont we all pitch in a few bucks, just whatever you can without strapping yourself, and when the pot reaches a determined amount-- hire a high profile top of the line lawyer. we would pick one current court situation (draw straws?)and take it right to the top. Complete with P.I. and whatever else the lawyer needed for resources to showcase the injustices being done by vindictave ex-wives and the Current legal system. Get the media involved. Use the case to pressure legislators to take overdue action etc. Often it takes an action such as this to bring change. Each of us alone can talk about and offer advice about our individual situations, but if we all worked together as one voice more (impotant?) people will listen, which would help all of us. Creating a fund would take some thought and planning. It would have to be set up so it could only be accessed by the authority of all of us. (set up a board?) My idea is not very thought out-- but it might have potential. Any feedback welcome. thank you tjraid18

[tjraid18]

  Oh! By the way, whats HR 22? tjraid18

[rosanlu]

I am also new to this site, so bear with me.
  regarding the courts and mediaters, fathers always seem to  have to defend themselves while the moms can lie or anyway manipulate when it is evident that is what they are doing. They get away with it.
  Mediation is supposed to be fair and unbiased. The so called villiage to help raise a child. What happens in reality is quite different.
  In our case when it was brought ot that a PI was hired, there was no regard for the evidence. The mediater just said,"You've got to be kidding. You actually hired a detective?" She then proceeded to explain what she and her ex do in their family. She never looked at the case records before my son and his ex came to see her. All this to the tune of $600.00.
  I believe there is a need for a group to work together, but feel a fund would be depleted  and in the hole before you got the checks to the bank. Too many deserving hands would have to reach for the pot.
    Just my opinion.

[tjraid18]

  Nice to "meet" you rosanlu and thanks for the input, I'm glad to have it. I agree that it would be hard to get the money part of the idea to work or even be agreed on by anyone interested in participating. But the main idea is to raise enough money and to just pick one exemplary case (to be decided somehow.) and use it to further all the progress the individual efforts have made through the courts, legislation, and media. If you take 50,000 people who are tired enough of not seeing their children to do something about it and say they all throw in $10.00, that would be a good start. It does seem to be a money thing, and a lot of us dont have enough individually to acomplish what they need to through the courts and with attorneys. It's a group effort to help one of us, which in turn could give all of us alot of headway. People might be surprised at how many people got involved once an idea like this got started. There are a lot of people who are not seeing their children for no other reason than the other parent doesnt want them too and can get away with it. There could be alot of potential for an idea like this. I just want to do whatever I can to keep anyone else from going through what I (and my son & daughter) and a lot of other people went through. Thanks again, I appreciate the feedback. Take care---- tjraid18