Update on our saga....

[lucky]

pbfh#1, who has had custody of osd since 10/2/03 keeps calling dh to take care of osd's situations.  Or she calls to tell dh that osd is -- yet again -- having a pregnancy test done.  She doesn't seem to understand that having custody means taking care that osd doesn't get INTO the situations in the first place.  Like not allowing osd and her boyfriend to sleep together -- because HEY abstinence is a wonderful form of birth control!

Osd will be 18 on 5/5/04.  Osd's boyfriend is 20 yo.  They have been going together for 15 months now.  He IS a nice guy and has a job, however, he hasn't figured out that spending thousands of $$$ on a truck, then on a snowmobile, plus spending the apt. deposit on a new cell phone does NOT make him financially responsible.  AND osd doesn't have a job and pbfh told me that osd told pbfh to look for a job for her (osd) -- BTW pbfh FINALLY got her ownself a job!!!  Yet osd is getting a pregnancy test done just about every month, then pbfh calls dh and asks him what to do.

We talked to osd about it at Xmas, but I don't think she got it -- or she just blew off everything we said.

ANYWAY, onto the other kids -- the kids go to pbfh's for the weekend and then go to a friends/relatives/our house/etc for the night because pbfh took a job that requires her to work 3 eight hour shifts per weekend (Fri. 3pm thru Sun. morn) whether she has the kids or not.  Great that she's got a job, except that she doesn't see the kids at all -- she's either working or in bed.  AND, she doesn't ask for extra time otherwise -- like no-school days when she isn't working.  Just blows my mind -- she complains that she never gets to see the kids, she lives 1.5 blocks away from us but she NEVER asks to have the kids outside of her visitation!  She doesn't even call them again.

In addition, oss has asked to go over there to spend the night several times and when he checks things out, pbfh says she's going out --- since she never gets to do that anymore -- so he should come over a different day.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I guess I should just be grateful that she isn't pulling any crap right now, huh?

[Peanutsdad]

LOL

I was gonna say,, count your blessings ;)

[lucky]

Would you believe that she actually TOLD oss that she didn't want any kids at her house on Saturday afternoon?  Oss called her to tell her he'd be a little late getting back (about 1pm instead of noon) and she asked why he was coming back because no one else was there and she liked the quiet without kids.

He can't believe it -- he definitely needs to get some more counseling in too with his mother telling him this crap.