HELP! WE need serious help for 19 yr old dad....

[smtotwo]

This is for a friend of my sons....Mom is 18, drinks ALOT smokes around baby (7 Months old), leaves baby with her parents for extended periods of time.

Dad and Mom were together (he thought) when he entered basic training.  He came home yesterday.  When he called Mom to tell her
he'd be home she just said, Well, I wont be there.

She packed ALL his belongings befoer he'd even left basic.

She's now putting all kinds of conditions on how he can visit his son.

Her parents home is a disgusting pigsty!!  I babysat for her when she was small, and things haven't improved at all, filthy, garbage, animal feces throughout the house.

I suggested the following:  File for full custody immediately. Maybe he'll get it based on the home situation, but at least he can negotiate to 50/50 .

Baby had pneumonia. She's refusing to give him medical info. However, we did find WIsconsin statute 767 which says, A parent is entitled to ALL school and medical recards, regardless of whether that parent has legal custody or not.

She wants him to only visit at her parents home.  I thought that was a WONDERFUL IDEA!!  Take a camera, take pics of the filth the baby is living in.  He could just tell her parents that he wants pics of baby.  Or better yet a videa camera.

Wi is also a one-party state.  He'll be picking up my microcassette recorder and phonecorder later today. She told his sister that she's going to tell the court that he never gave her any money.  However he has all the cancelled checks.

If anyone has other suggestions I'd really appreciate it.

We'll be helping this young man fill out a parenting plan and the papers to file by the end of the week.

I also told him to get a sewn-bound notebook and start documenting.


THANKS EVERYBODY!!

[Peanutsdad]

He's gonna have a serious problem gaining custody considering he's active duty military.