right of first refusal

[hdlewis]

Background info. right of first refusal was put into custody papers so dad could ensure mom didn't take kids to questionable babysitters. Dad has now remarried to me and exwife threatens right of first refusal. Custody is joint with dad having 60%. We live in Oklahoma, dad has four kids and I have four kids. The children love it when all eight are together and hate it when the four have to go to their moms when it's not her turn.
1. When dad works late and the kids are with me more than three hours without their dad present can exwife use right of first refusal to take kids from this home?
2. Dad has a business trip on "his days", must we offer right of first refusal to ex wife?
3. Doesn't this right of first refusal have to deal with babysitters and third parties? Is a step parent a third party?

[socrateaser]

In order to answer your questions, you must post the EXACT text of the custody order related to this right of first refusal.

[lsaenz]

I can't believe I found someone in the same situation as me!  You have more kids of course but it is a mirror image of what I am going through!  He has one son I have two we have been together 8 yrs and now the ex is wreaking havoc on us with the right of first refusal after 4 hrs.  He has left work early and taken days off.  Please tell me if you found an answer to your question?  My search has pretty much just begun and I have had no luck thus far.