Lost in he said/she said

[dipper]

Soc,

DH's son was badly burned in April.  BM sent dh bills for large purchases made as well as prescription drugs, doctor visit, and one without any description as to items purchased.  I called one supplier and he told me point blank - with discussion about the fact that bm worked next door to his office - that the boxes could be returned if unopened.

Dh sent a letter stating that he wanted an explanation for one bill, and that the other purchases were not his responsibility for several reasons, inlcuding:
* they were never used on ss    * she sent ss here with an empty wrapper while having said items  *also, put in there that they could be returned.

BM spoke with supplier and now he says they cant be returned at all.  I spoke with him as well..and he says he must have misspoke and cannot provide me with a copy of his return policy.

BM chose to be defensive and stated that the doctor told her to use her discretion in applying bandages.  "How would you like to wear large bandages all the time?  SS has an input in this too as he was the one hurt, not you or I."

BM enclosed a copy of the discharge papers requiring bandages, gauze, etc.  However, the purchases being refused by dh were purchased after his doctor visit on 5/12 at which time the doctor said bandages were needed only until small wounds healed and to use her discretion.  It was after this that she purchased about 82 bandages and 28 rolls of gauze...about $186, and only applied bandages the two days.

((By the way soc, bm went to school for accounting....and in reviewing the bills, she added wrong - just so happens she put in over $100..and said dh's 75% was actually the amount she paid total))

Soc, doesnt this still fall into the category of unreasonable/discretionary purchases?



Should we reply to her emotional defense about her care of ss when we never accused her of anything (though by her own admission, she left it up to him)?

[socrateaser]

>Soc, doesnt this still fall into the category of
>unreasonable/discretionary purchases?

Probably, but if your proof is weak, the court will err on the side of the child and charge you for the bandages. I think that you're splitting hairs here -- $186, is not a huge amount of money, and it's distracting you from the bigger picture.

[dipper]

Its not a lot of money, soc.  But, if she bought these items on May 13 - and he came to our home on that day with an empty bandage wrapper and wearing one and a half bandages - and by her own admission, he never wore the bandages at her home.....

Why should we pay for them?

[socrateaser]

>Its not a lot of money, soc.  But, if she bought these items
>on May 13 - and he came to our home on that day with an empty
>bandage wrapper and wearing one and a half bandages - and by
>her own admission, he never wore the bandages at her
>home.....
>
>Why should we pay for them?

Because the cost of your time fighting the issue is more than it's worth.