How long is too long?

[oklahoma]

In March 2005, BM again has refused to allow my parenting time.  I have not seen, nor spoken to my daughters since.  My wife spoke briefly on the phone with them in July (BM was not home at the time), and found out they had not received any of our letters, phone messages, etc.  Since then, BM has blocked our phone number.

Since March, BM has refused to respond to letters or phone calls.  I have also written to her attorney numerous times, and finally received a response (in August!)--that BM will not do anything outside of court.  

I have now contacted an attorney, but am struggling to come up with Retainer.  (I am a law student, maxed out on student loans, very bad credit that we are just now cleaning up, and we are in better financial shape than most of our family, so no borrowing from them.)

I am anxious to see my daughters!!  And I am afraid that my options with the court are disappearing the longer it takes to settle this up. (We are in Oregon.)

That's a lot of background for the one burning question I have:

1.  How long do I have (generally speaking) before the judge just says to keep things the way they are?

[socrateaser]

>In March 2005, BM again has refused to allow my parenting
>time.  I have not seen, nor spoken to my daughters since.  My
>wife spoke briefly on the phone with them in July (BM was not
>home at the time), and found out they had not received any of
>our letters, phone messages, etc.  Since then, BM has blocked
>our phone number.
>
>Since March, BM has refused to respond to letters or phone
>calls.  I have also written to her attorney numerous times,
>and finally received a response (in August!)--that BM will not
>do anything outside of court.  
>
>I have now contacted an attorney, but am struggling to come up
>with Retainer.  (I am a law student, maxed out on student
>loans, very bad credit that we are just now cleaning up, and
>we are in better financial shape than most of our family, so
>no borrowing from them.)
>
>I am anxious to see my daughters!!  And I am afraid that my
>options with the court are disappearing the longer it takes to
>settle this up. (We are in Oregon.)
>
>That's a lot of background for the one burning question I
>have:
>
>1.  How long do I have (generally speaking) before the judge
>just says to keep things the way they are?

What exactly do your custody/visitation order state?

Are all parties and children to this case residents of Oregon?