Books for people divorcing from a...

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Borderline Personality disorder or narcissistic wife/husband.

I found these on BPD website  Stop Walking on eggshells is supposed to be for people who love someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, but it has specific chapters on Divorce and Custody.  
Stop Walking On Eggshells by Randl Kreger and Paul Mason

THe other is  specific for divorcing someone who is Bi-Polar or Borderline Personality Disorder.

Splitting  by  William Eddy

I haven't read them yet but I do plan on getting them.  Hopefully they'll help DH and I deal with the ex better.