Need Help with custody

[WayneChristian]

Recently it was brought to my attention that my 11 year olds mother has been mentally abusing him for several years now and the family has been keeping it from me.   I have been told several different things from family members about what has been going on.  
The road block that I am running into is that she is trying to get him diagnosed as being bi-polar.  My concern with that is that when he turns 12 the court may dismiss his opinion.  I wanted some guidance as to what to do... oh yeah by the way I live out of state and the courts will be in Texas.  Which when it comes to dad's right in Texas, you might as well grab the carrot yourself.  

[mishelle2]

post your ??'s on socrateasers board, make sure to follow posting guidelines, he will give you valuable info.

Now my opinion... I would ask the court to allow a psych evalualtion done, on child, that will show what is going on. Do you have joint legal custody? If so send letter to childs doctor stating they do not have your permission to prescribe child with any medication, as you would like to have an evaluation by an additional dr. prior to medicating child.

You can also call the school your child attends, speak with the school counselor, she may have some insight, or may be able to refer him to a good counselor. Get copies of all records at school, ie: how many times child has been absent, tardy, sent to office for disrupting class. get detailed progress reports from school, showing how many missing assignments he has and what the scores are on the assignments/tests he has turned in.  On most report cards it shows the childs behavior in class..

When you speak with school follow up with a letter, fax it to the school then you have record of them, make the letter as professional as possible do not say anything about what you think is going on with mother, as you dont want to appear to be leading  them one way or another..

well just a few suggestions..hope they help

[WayneChristian]

Thanks for the information.  That may be the only way that I can go.  I recently found out from an attorney in Texas  without proving the mother to be physically abusive, a drug addict, and or alcoholic there is almost no way for me to get custody.
Again thanks for the info.

[leon clugston]

you need to understand why things happen as they do and why when it comes to children, changes in custody and particulary changes from a woman(not being biased can happen both ways, rarely though) and why you end up banging youre head against a brick wall when it seems these agencies try to cover things up and seemingly do not want to help.This reason is summed up in one thing, it is called the state plan, Texas has one it is over a thousand pages of public documents, but you will never see them, in fact out side of the agencies there is only a handfull that has besides myself and a few others in Texas who have brought this to are attention so we could sift through it. If you or anybody else would like to see the Texas or the Alaska plan( we dont have all the pages yet) send an email to [email protected] and I would be happy to show you these legit, undeniable public documents that have been compounding the problems that we as parents face everyday and or will face within are lifetime dirrectly or indirrectly.