CORRECTING A WRONG

[okiebug13]

I once allowed my x to move out of state with our two children.  The reaason at the time was simple, she was already preventing the court-ordered visitation schedule and do everything in her power to make it impossible for me to see the kids, so I thought give her her fresh start and some space and maybe I'll get some more quality time in the long run.

Instead, I have been given less and less access to the kids.  This past summer she just picked-up and moved further away.  I tried to get a temporary restraining order to prevent her move, but the judge refused to grant it, instead ordered a court review.  Since she was already moved by the court date, the court choose to do nothing.

My daughter suffers with Artho-gyposis and Turner's syndrome.  She has had numerous operations to correct the conditions and requires constant therapy to improve.  Since the move my x has not done anything to stay up with these requirements.  My daughter's condition has deteriorated greatly in the last six months and I fear that without support and intervention of the court she will never recover to the positive conditions previously be improve by therapy.  My x likes to consider my daughter handicapped, instead of getting her help.

What can I do?  I know her previous doctors and therapists would agree that she has regressed.  I do not think my x is placing the welfare of the kids 1st.

Please help.

Lost and Forgotten in NH

[Kitty C.]

Write them letters (or better yet, go talk to them) and tell them you have reason to believe that your child's health and well being is in jeopardy.  They are mandatory reporters and are required by law to report ALL 'suspected' abuse and withholding treatment is considered abuse and neglect.  If they fail to report it, they face serious repercussions.

Many will tell you that going to CPS is a waste of time and I would tend to agree with them, but I also think a lot of it has to do with the source of the initial information.  They have a tendency of blowing off parents, especially when there's a divorce and/or custody is in dispute.  But when they are ordered to investigate based on allegations coming from law enforcement, schools, and medical personnel, they are scrutinized much more closely and will follow thru more effectively.....in most cases.  So use the professionals as your voice for your child.

Above all, keep on it.  The squeaky wheel gets the grease and you are the ONLY voice for your child right now.  You will run into road blocks but keep plugging away and keep pounding on doors until there are no doors left to pound.  Your child's life depends on it.

[okiebug13]

To whom do I write the letters to?  With her recent 2nd reloaction neither of my daughter's specialist are nearby to Courtney.  

Can the court order her to have my daughter evaluated to judge the effect of withholding trteatment.

Thanks for the help:)

Loss in New Hampshire