Tips for new dads

[msme]

I came across this on the Procter & Gamble site. It is obviously written by a woman but good tips, especially for single new dads.

You may think of bonding as a one-time event that occurs just after birth. But bonding is an ongoing process with no clear beginning or end. In fact, dad can bond with baby even before he or she is born. Many experts believe babies in the womb learn to recognize voices. Dad can make certain his voice is heard by talking, singing and gently rubbing your midsection. By doing so, your baby will learn to associate his voice with a soothing rub before he or she even enters your world.

Encourage him to try these other ideas for bonding with your new arrival.

 Physical closeness comforts babies. Many hospitals recommend a method of bonding called Kangaroo Care, especially for parents of premature infants. It has been proven to help premature babies thrive, but can be effective with full-term infants too. While your infant is wearing only a diaper, dad should hold her upright against the center of his bare chest. This skin-to-skin, heartbeat-to-heartbeat contact helps keep your baby warm, and the physical closeness comforts the baby.  
 
 Just as you enjoy a good massage, your baby does too. In fact, many experts recommend a gentle massage to stimulate the baby and help with bonding. It is also said to aid digestion, relieve colic and ease tension. Look for a book or infant massage class to learn the appropriate technique.  
 
 Remind dad that unless he's clean-shaven, his skin can be bristly and irritate baby's tender skin. So when he's close, baby is comfortable.

 Let your baby know that, like you, dad provides comfort. When baby is fussy, dad should comfort her with gentle cooing, rocking, singing or walking. Dad should be a part of the care routine: changing diapers, bathing and feeding her. His daily routine also can include carrying her in a baby carrier or sling.  
 
 Your baby will love to hear the sound of her father's voice. Dad should read the newspaper to her, tell her about his favorite sports team or sing to her. She may not comprehend the words, but the voice will give her the attention she enjoys.  
 
 No matter the age, dad should communicate at the baby's eye level. At first your baby can focus only on things that are close to him. Dad should get close, look into his eyes and hold still while baby gets to know his face. Once baby is sitting in a stroller or walker, dad should get down on the floor and speak at baby's level, instead of being a booming voice from up above.  
 
 You can strap her in a stroller, so she can join dad for a jog. When older, she can ride her tricycle alongside dad. Eventually, the two can bicycle together. Encourage dad to regularly include her in an activity she enjoys.

You never get a second chance to make a first impression!