Mother has legal custody - update

[Indigo Mom]

I meant "ally".....lol

[Tennessee Dad]

The other ex is prior, and after; their son is 8.  He is the one BM moved in with when she left husband while pregnant with daughter.  But, he kicked her out when daughter was still a baby, so he can't help much there.  Their relationship has been on again, off again for years; that is one reason we don't know whether to trust him or not.  But this time I really feel he has had it with her too.  

His reasoning for being helpful to us would be to help his own case.  He would like to go the custody of his son, too; but is afraid of the fall-out just like we are.  I guess time will tell.

[nosonew]

Well, at least let him talk to your attorney.  Your attorney can decide if he is going to hurt or help your case.  

Regarding the phone thing, THAT IS NOT< I REPEAT< NOT OKAY!  That is the same as recording, and I would keep a record of it.  How do you know she listened in?  Do you tape all calls with bm?  If not, I would consider it if you live in a state it is legal in.  

Good luck!

[Tennessee Dad]

Thanks regarding phone call; I thought that was the way it should be.  I know she was listening because she called back immediately after I hung up and admitted it.  And it all went in the journal; I have pages and pages of notes for the attorney.  

Thanks for you input!