It is not his fault. I need help, I am alone on this.

[FindingDylan]

It is going to be a little to long to read my statement, but if you really want to help me with any ideas I will really appreciate it, because I want to find my son Dylan and I am alone on this task, any help would be much to me.
I am from Ecuador, and I have been in USA for many years now. I obtained my legal status by marriage with an American Citizen. She is from New York and I was living there with her and my son until august 2003. After my son was born the marriage took a fatal turn and we could not recuperate from it. The biggest problem, she was extremely irresponsible, that would be a complete different story. We agreed to separate and move to Florida together, actually it was her idea and she wanted to take my son with her; after many arguments we agreed that it will be better if I move first and prepare the terrain for her, of course we were not going to live together again. So I quit my job and I move to Florida in September 2003. We had no friends or anything in Florida, so it was going to be very hard even for a man alone, that is why I preferred to move first and leave my son in an apartment and not wondering in a place that no one new. I had phone contact with my son until November 2003, month in which the lease expired and the last thing that I heard from her was "We are moving to Florida in a couple of days, we will call you". Since then I have not heard anything. I have called her step mother, she claims to know nothing. I called the day care center; she removed my son from it without any previous notice. She is a waitress and she is not working in the last place that I knew of. Murphy's Law, I could not find a good job, my financial situation is very bad and since I left New York my credit got damaged. I have been looking for help everywhere with no luck. I was planning to move back to New York and find my son, and then I got a good job. I have not started it yet, but I will soon. I have spoken to a few lawyers, the cheapest one 3000 to start a custody process. We are still married. To add a bit more spice to the situation my name does not show up in my son's birth certificate, but he has my last name, and YES he IS mine. Now I got the job and my finances will get better.
If you get to this point, thank you very much for your interest.
Now, what should I do? I am an immigrant, I am in a different state, I am a man and my finances are not good. I thought for a second to turn my back and say the hell with it, but IT IS NOT HIS FAULT, and he needs a father, and I will do everything for my son. Please any ideas or advice will be very welcome.. Thanks a lot to everyone in advance.

[Childrenfirst]

You must get a lawyer but you have to file for divorce and custody in the state in which the child resides. Since you do not know that....you might read here...
Articles Archive (http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/articles.htm)

This is where all our information is....there is an article on finding a missing spouse. Make sure and keep documentation of all the time you have lost with your child and the attempts you have made to locate him. The stepmother knows where the child is...tell her you would like to do this the amicable way but if she does not tell you where he is ...your attorney will be forcing her to testify in court...

Good luck to you!