some more stuff about this case....I'm still worried

[aurons dad]

I have just learned also that my wife, who will be 20 in August, is looking to date a 16 year old friend of mine. This wouldn't bother me so much if it weren't for the fact that this kid just recently escaped from a long-term juvenile correctional facility for violent crimes. I have known him for several years as he is my old friends little brother, and has on several occasions attacked her physically. I don't dislike this person, but I worry about my son being raised around him.

My wife has also gotten it to the point where I am sitting here in a public youth office, (open door policy and free net access) and she is in a back room. However, our son is in the lobby with me and I held him for several minutes. Upon seeing this she had one of the staff remove him from me and though she is just sitting and talking with friends, she will not allow me to see him for a few minutes because she is too busy.
A friend told me last night about a pro-bono family attorney in our area, but I'm not going to talk to them until I take a few parenting classes.

My next concern is the simple matter of Parental Alienation Syndrome. She is trying to keep him away from me as much as possible to get him to not be comfortable with me. She told me that "I don't deserve to see him" because I decided on the divorce. When she left, and we got seperated, I had no idea that she was going to pull the stuff that she is pulling, as it started with her leaving to do her normal daily stuff and me staying home and getting dinner ready when she got home. However, when it came to dinner time, I got a phone call from one of the employees at this office, and she told me that Rachel had left a message saying that she was safe but she was going to stay the weekend at someone elses house.

I thought it was odd, but I trusted her and did not expect that Tuesday, when I was going to file a missing persons report and kidnapping charges, that she would show up with an officer, a restraining order, and seperation papers. She said it was her counselors idea and that she had only planned on being gone for a short while so I would see the mistakes I was making. But once I corrected all of these mistakes, she still would not come back and proceeded to go back and forth between wanting divorce and being back together.

It's hard sitting here listening to my son laugh and cry behind me and not be able to spend time with him because of his mother.
Thank you for listening, if you have any other information or ideas for me, they have all been a great help so far. I've not started to keep track of hours yet due to the fact that I'm lucky to get a few minutes a week and it's hard to keep track of those, but I'm going to get a three ring binder to start keeping a journal of conversations, arguments, and times I get to see him.

Steven