ok now what?

[Stepmom0418]

Well BM passed her drug test, after cleaning up for 2 weeks before she went to take it for CPS. Now DHS is going to find the report unfounded and not do a damn thing. Figures don't it?

FACTS:
            1)BM is living with a man that has had his parental rights taken and is a known drug user. DHS removed the child from the home! Plus has several indecent exposures on his record. CPS worker stated to me that there is definatlly something going on in that home but she cant put her finger on it.(what the hell is that about, cant put my finger on it so its unfounded!!!)
            2)My SS has missed 37 days of school this year so far and 37 last year. Truancy officer is now involved. (with alot of help from us)LOL!
            3)BM's mom went to jail recentlly for drug parafinilla and possesion of a controled substance. Plus was on probation for a meth lab stemming from an incident in Oct. of last year. (BM's mom took care of SS most of the time when she wasnt in jail. BM never has till now. Not even when he was a baby!) Now BM's mom is gonna be going to prison.
            4)SS is always filthy.
            5)we have visitation EOW and holiday. Per a temp order.
            6)We have an attorney and she does not!!  
            7)BM doesnt work and never really has.
            8)BM talks bad abot dad all the time and upsets SS. Tries to tell him dad is mean and will take you away and you will never see me again. ect. She does this so he wont want to go on visits or so she hopes. But it hasnt worked so far! THANK GOD!!
         Ok you all, tell me what do you think? Our attorney says we should ammend our petition and modify based on the above. We have 4 children living at our home and have a 4 bedroom home. (fight for physical custody) im a stay at home mom and dad works full time. This child is 7. He has lived through nothing but hell his whole life. We know it would be in his best interest to be here with us. What do you think? Please be honest with us! We trust in our attorney and think hes right but we wanted your oppinion as well!!  Thanks everyone!

PS does anyone know what happens when you loose your parental rights? Can you still be around children? Can you live with some one elses children? It was a DHS removal and from what I can find out we are not intitled to this information. Can a judge get this information or an attorney since this weirdo is living with my SS.
 One other thing is that BM told SS that he had to change his last name to either his dads name or to her boyfriends last name. We told him if he wants dads last name we could prob. help him with that but we didnt think a judge would change his name to the boyfriends last name. He then said he would talk to his Bm. (he has moms maiden name) How can we change his name? Does BM have to agree? Why would she give him the option of the boyfriends last name, they have only been together 6 months or so!!

[Kitty C.]

Remember one thing, SM.  Just because she waited 2 weeks and came out clean doesn't mean DHS will find the case unfounded.  One thing I'd be suggesting to them is to do a random one, or one more say tomorrow or VERY soon, and if she doesn't comply they will have every reason to open a full-blown investigation on her.  Don't automatically assume they are going to wash their hands of this just yet.  There's too much else involved here for them to walk away now!

If I were your atty., I'd be asking for an emergent modification hearing.  As for the BF's prior convictions, there is always a possibility that he's been ordered to stay away from kids, probably on the indecent exp. cases.  But having parental rights taken away doesn't automatically mean he cannot be around any other kids, unless that was stipulated in the termination order, too.  Your atty. can find out if anything like that has been ordered on this guy.  That alone is grounds for an emergent hearing.  And when you add the DHS crap, the truancy, and everything else, it looks like a slam dunk to me!

As for the name change, there's no way in hell a judge would allow a name change to the BF.  BUT both parents have to agree to it, if both parents' names are on the birth cert.
 
What you're seeing are the acts of an extremely desperate woman.  Take that into consideration when you're dealing with her BS.    

[Stepmom0418]

Hi Kitty,
 My husband called DHS today and they told him that it was going to be an unfounded report. He was very nice and polite but he was pissed and showed it once he hung up the phone! I too am dissapointed but I still think that we have a good case. I just cant believe that this woman is fooling them all!! She is so full of BS!! Waiting on a call from the attorney but still hopeful!! We sent BM a letter and told her that 1) she is responsible for picking SS up here at our house each sunday per the court order! 2)We will no longer be bringing her sister along for visits b/c of the bad ordeal over past weekend and due to SS request. 3)Gave her our notice of intent for our first week for summer vacation. June 18- June 27(our week plus our weekend) So far we havent heard a word from BM or SS or BM's sister. We know she got the letter because we always send it with delivery confrimation!! LOL! Its not normal so we feel some false accusations comming on or something!


HURRY UP AND WAIT ITS THE STORY OF MY LIFE!!! LOL!!!