Tracylee..........Some thoughts

[msme]

After reading your responses to aussie, I just wanted to share some things with you. Sometimes, you can get things done in an emergency that you can't do through regular channels.

My son's judge is a father hating, blonde, airhead bimbo who disregarded all evidence & kept kids with a drug addicted, abusive, mentally ill (bi-polar +) sicko, just because she is a women & this "judge" believes that all kids belong with their mother, no matter what.

When she beat his daughter so severely that the school intervened, he was able to get an exparte hearing before another judge who transfered custody immediately.

What I am getting at is that, while it may take some time, get your ducks in a row, now. First, is your attorney a Board Certified Family Law & Custody specialist, who specializes in father's rights? Ask what the firm's success rate is in these types of cases.

If they won't tell you or the numbers aren't high enough, get a new attorney. A specialist is essential when dealing with a biased judge. My son's first lawyer also told him that it was cut & dried & then stood there & did nothing while her attorney drove a tank over him.

You said that you had an ally in her former drug partner. See if she will help you further. She certainly knows people who know people. If she can keep an eye on her & find out when she is "holding", you can call the police & get her busted. A drug conviction can only go against her.

If she does get custody restored, you should try to see if you can get that same friend to let you know if she takes them with her, again, to drug houses. If you can catch her in the act of endangering them, & can get an exparte hearing, you may draw a different judge & get custody.

You might also consider approaching the issue of civil rights. If one parent is going through something that prevents them from being an effective parent, custody should go to the other parent, not a third party, regardless of the relationship. I know that battle is being fought, as a constitutional violation, in several areas of the country, now.

In the mean time, we will keep you & your family in our prayers. Tell your hubby not to give up. He is not alone & someday, his kids will appreciate all he has done to try to protect them.

Good luck & God bless.

You never get a second chance to make a first impression!

[tracylee]

Thank you for your post.  Our attorney was not a family law specialist.  He is a criminal attorney, but had helped my husband out through another matter years ago and it never occurred to us that we would need a specialist.  After all, it was "open and shut".  I know what you mean by the tank being in motion, because it rolled over our hearts.  

The friend in question that testified against her, has tried to communicate with BM, but she will not have anything to do with her.  BM is still standing on the premise that it was all the friends fault and that the friend exagerrated everything.  The friend certainly went to great lengths to incriminate herself on the stand if that were the case.  We are using every avenue to stay abreast to the situation.  The problem is now, if she starts using again, she won't be so blatant about it this time.  The oldest daughter knows what to look for and is supposed to let us know if she ever notices any changes in her mothers behavior.  Whether she will or not at that point is still a mystery, but we can only hope and pray that she does.  If BM were to actually stay clean and be a parent, we will have accepted that as such, but if not, it would be unfortunate for something to have to happen to one of the girls for someone to open their eyes and see that just because she has breasts, it doesn't make her a mother.

Thanks again and in turn, I wish you the best in whatever situation you are in.  As far as civil trial goes, we are no $10,000 in the hole thanks to her drug abuse and no longer have the funds to pursue anything further.  

Take care.
Tracy