Psychomommy moving AGAIN!!

[smtotwo]

This will be the 4th move for the skids in 3 yrs. Both are in school.
This move isn't all bad for us as it cuts down our drive to pick them up
by 1/2 hour.

BUT, we only found out about the move because DH called to talk to the boys last night and they were  PACKING!!

Court order says 60 days written notice, not day notice through the kids!!

We don't really want to file contempt for this, but we do want to force her to tell us where she's living and where the kids are going to school!

This woman (I use the term loosely) is driving me crazy with what she's doing to these kids!!

GRRRR!

Any Advice??

[wendl]

I know how you feel,

My oss is going into 4th grade, this will be his 4th school.
yss wil be his 3rd school.

Sucks huh, dh's ex filed the relocation papers while the kids were with us, kids didn't believe dh when he told them they were moving AGAIN.

Oss says "mom said we weren't gonna move again" DH said "well sorry to say you are" oss thought dad was lying and we both told oss that WE do NOT lie and would not lie to them.

At least this time bm moved into a better area.
Gee funny how taking someone to court makes them realize hmmmmm we are living in a gang, drug, hooker, sex offender area. DUH look down the sidewalk.

lmao after court too he is ACTUALLY getting out of her car during the exchanges.

[junglechicken]

What did bm say when dh asked her?

We're going through much the same issue - don't know if you saw my post about our bm being evicted for the third time in two years.  I don't have any advice at the moment - I'll let you know when my dh decides to get off his duff and find out!  :P  

[wendl]

Dh's ex as been evicted 2x in the last 3yrs, she even lived in a hotel with the kids for a few months, in which dh did not know, but found out cuz kids were complaining about it.

Sad in my opinion, hell I have been in the same place since 1995 and dh has lived with me for about 3 1/2yrs.

**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**

[nosonew]

Wendl... just fyi.  From the perspective of the child who changes schools very frequently (I went to 13 grade schools from K-5) due to bio-dad not paying c.s., mom getting evicted, although working 2 jobs (had 4 kids), mom must not have been very good with money either!  My experience was both fearful and helpful.  I had to LEARN to make friends, I made a game of going into the classroom, looking around, and without meeting anyone, picking out who was going to be MY FRIEND.  Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't.  If I had a preference, I would have preferred ONE school...it is hard.  Before long, you don't even want to make GOOD friends, you know you will be leaving them soon...very hard on kids.  

But the con's outweigh ANY pro's... and I made a deal with myself when son began school, I WOULD NOT MOVE...he is now 16 and has gone to school with the same kids, since preschool.  It has been very good for him...and I have STRONGLY encouraged him to accept and befriend NEW kids, and he has.  Although his 3 best friends were in his kindergarten class.

If these judges knew...they wouldn't allow it.  I feel for your kids...btdt.

[smtotwo]

in the same school, with the same friends, since pre-school.  We moved once, within the same school district.  DH and I have been together for 5 yrs and been in the same house the entire time!!

We'd love to have custody, but  moving the kids from school to school, town to town, even state to state (wisconsin to colorado to wisconsin)
isn't enough and must be in the best interest of the child because the court keeps allowing it.

And as to the what did psychomommy say?  Nothing, She wasn't home when DH picked up the kids (10 and 8 home alone for 3 hours).  OSS told us last night when we talked to him.  He coudn't talk long cuz he was packing.

[Lawmoe]

You are entitled to a physical location and a telephone number where the children can be reached.  If the other party will not provide it, you may file a motion for the same.

Keep tabs on the kids grades. if they start to suffer from the multiple relocations, it may form a basis to change custody.