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[ronrogers]

i POSTED A MESSAGE ON THIS SITE REGARDING, HELP WITH VISITATION ISSUES, DID NOT GET ONE REPLY FROM ANYONE?
DID I DO SOMETHING WRONG?  RONROGERS

[Stepmom0418]

You did not do anything wrong but some more information might help others to offer advise. such as: Do you have a court order? If so, what state? And what does the order say? How long has it been since you have seen your daughter? ECT. Offer some more info and then im sure others will reply.

[Peanutsdad]

Your post contains no information that anyone here would require in order to offer any advise for.

Please post facts of your case,, it will help us to help you.


What are your current court orders? Do they address long distance visitation?

Are there any pending criminal charges? Or past convictions AFTER the date of the orders?

How long has it been since you had visitation?


Have you documented past denied visitation?

[ronrogers]

I have filed motions with New Hampshire family courts, 1 of motion to have my child heard in court or have the courts speak to her to hear her wishes. 2 to have a motion to modify visitation / custody. I did not file the order for contept or the gardian / litp. because I was told to just stick to the facts and not present myself as being arguementive.
I have not seen my 15 year old for almost 3 years now, but I do speak with her on the phone and online 2 or 3 times aweek. I have recieved calls and letters from her stating about her mothers emotional abuse against her, her drinking and pot smoking / dealing, and the fact that her mother has told her all sorts of lies about me ranging from, I am wanted by the FBI, wanted for child abuse, if she let her come see me then the state would arrest her mother because of my so called past?
       All of these are nothing but lies, I have even checked with DHHS and others and found out that they have never said such things nor am I on file for any wrongs. Of which I already know, as I work with children daily and have undergone 2 or 3 US backround checks to obtain such employment status. The oringinal order for visitation rights was granted over 12 years ago, since that time, 3 yrs ago the courts also placed an order stating that her mother was to stop saying bad things about me to our child, give all mail / gifts to her that I mail, not to listen in on phone calls. Of which she has violated each one of these things. She stated to me that I have been in and out of my childs life so much that she don't want to cause her any more pain? The reason I have been in and out so much is because of my childs mother interfering and using my child as a manipulating tool against me. I spoke to her mother 2 weeks ago for the first time in 3 years "not that I have not tryed over and over again to contact her by phone or letters" her statement to me was if I left my wife and 4 children that I have now and of which I am the sole income for. and flew up to Maine to see my daughter, than she might "maybe" concider letting me see her again, but there was no way she was going to let my daughter come to see me, no matter how bad of emotional pain she is going through because she cant see me or no matter how many times my daughter asks her to let her come see me.
It has been so long and so manttimes of denial ,I have lost track of recording denied times of visitation, and no criminal charges have ever been charged against me, and my daughter used to be able to come and visit me when my wife and I lived in Florida, so long distance was never a concern. I always payed for the plane fare. Untill 3 years ago, I paid $575.00 for my daughter and her sister "who has always called me dad" to come down to Florida over X-Mas to see me, and at the day of their flight, their mother calls me and says she changed her mind, they were not coming down! So of course not to mention being disapointed I was also out 575.00.
I could not come up with a lawyer, and did not want to wait 2 or 3 months for a pro bono, so I mailed out the paperwork to the courts on Monday and plan on handling it on my own in court.

[Peanutsdad]

I dont know who told you not to file contempts,, but they are dead wrong. If you paid for that legal advise, I'd be calling the state bar to file a complaint.  

You definately NEED to file contempt on your ex,, again and again and again. Continue filing it for EACH occurance. Trust me, sooner or later,, the judge that has to hear these is GOING to get tired of it. He may even try to browbeat you for filing it,, dont back off,, simply , and respectfully tell him,, "Your Honor, I would be more than happy to stop coming into your court with these contempt motions, just as soon as the court sees fit to enforce its orders on the respondant."

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