OK Soc- now a question about parenting times

[taboalien]

Our original summer visitation plan to get the boys was May 28th-June 17th & again on July 2nd thru 21st.  But since the ex did not put them on the plane for visitation this past April AND we also realized that that weekend is Father's Day, we asked to add those 2 missed days onto the end of the first period making it May 28th-June 19th.

By the way the ex' s attorney finally called back- it was just what you said- she wasn't paying.  Anyways he tells us that we can't add those 2 days onto that period because she has already planned a cruise for them & they leave on the 18th.

#1- Can we have Father's Day weekend in addition to the summer time or do they think we should combine it all into one visitation time???

#2- If we can have it in addition to the summer time, can you help me word a letter to the attorney????

[socrateaser]

>#1- Can we have Father's Day weekend in addition to the summer
>time or do they think we should combine it all into one
>visitation time???

I have no idea what you can have in terms of parenting time unless you post the EXACT text of your court order on the issue.

[taboalien]

Father's Day Weekend- Each year beginning at 6PM on the Friday preceding Father's Day and ending at 6PM on Father's Day, provided that if he is not otherwise entitled under this Standard Possession Order to present possession of the child, he shall pick up the child from ex wifes' residence and return the child to the same place.

Summer visitation: With written notice by April 1st (which we did)- If hubby gives ex wife written notice by April 1st of a year specifying an extended period or periods of summer possession for that year, hubby shall have possession of the child for fourty two days beginning no earlier than the day after the child's school is dismissed for the summer vacation and ending no later than seven days prior to school's resumption, to be excercised in no more than two separate periods of at least seven consecutive days each, as specified in the written notice.  These periods shall begin & end at 6PM.

Summer possession by Ex wife: Ex wife may have possession of the child at all other times provided that the period or periods so designated do not interfere with Hubby's period or periods of extended summer possession or with Father's Day weekend.

She was given her written notice on March 20th- in which we stated we wanted May 28th - June 18th & July 2nd- July 23rd for our summer visitation times.

We did the same thing last summer & Father's Day weekend was in addition to the summer visit.  I don't know why she's chosen to be so difficult all of the sudden.  She wasn't even going to tell us where she was going or when- we found out from her attorney yesterday.

NOW- I hope I am awake enough that I got you all the info you needed...... THANX AGAIN !!!!! :-)

[socrateaser]

>#1- Can we have Father's Day weekend in addition to the summer
>time or do they think we should combine it all into one
>visitation time???

You are entitled to exactly what the court order provides, assuming that you have, as you state, provided the required written notice, by the required date. If you have been denied time already, and you can prove this, then you should gently but FIRMLY press your demand for an immediate make up time. If you don't, you will be viewed as a pushover, and the situation will get worse.


>#2- If we can have it in addition to the summer time, can you
>help me word a letter to the attorney?

By FAX to () -?; original to follow by regular mail

RE: PETITIONERNAME and RESPONDENTNAME; NAMEOFCOURT, Case No. ?

Dear Mr. Attorney,

On ??/??/??, your client, CLIENTNAME, willfully denied me access to my child, CHILDSNAME, without explanation or apparent reason. Because of this, I request that she provide make-up time equivalent to the time missed, on ??/??/??, beginning at ??:?? ?M, and ending ??/??/??, at ??:?? ?M.

I do not wish to invoke the power of the court to force this issue, but I cannot permit your client to treat my rights to time with my child, or the child's right to time with me, in such a cavalier attitude. If Ms. X had provided me with some explanation and make up time when this issue arose, I would have been more than accomodating. However, I can only infer from her failure to communicate with me, that she wishes to use her primary custody role as a means of punishment -- although the reason behind her actions are unclear to me.

If I do not receive a confirmation of the above-referenced arrangement from you or Ms. X by ??/??/??, I will move the court for a contempt order, as it will be my only remaining alternative.

If you have any questions or concerns, please do not hesitate to contact me immediately.

Very truly yours,

MYKIDSDAD

CC: Ms X

[taboalien]

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