CS Modification & Custody Modification questions

[4honor]

State is WA SS is 14. CS is $300 a month and was agreed to by both paretns in 2003. this is a deviation from guideline due to other children in DH's home with considerable medical costs due to Developmental delay in DS1 and DS2.

SS currently under investigtation by the County DA, with charges pending. DA has made it clear that we are not to discuss the matter with SS or BM and that SS is never to be alone with DS1 or DS2 for even one second IF the younger boys WANT to see him.

Current orders: Parents are 50/50  on CS share, medical, dental , vision and Mental health. BM/CP ordered to use the health insirance to minimize costs. Temp Parenting Plan has EOW to NCP, AND EOH, with make up for NCP only (not for CP).

Costs to exercise visitation have tripled, as SS must be 100% supervised with DS1 & DS2 and cannot spend the night in our home. We have managed 3 visitations with SS at DH's parents (40 mi RT) overnight and with us during the day. DH's parents say, "No more, we want our lives back."

Best solution is rent a  motorhome and put in driveway or rent a hotel room nearby ($60/night) = $330 per month average . This is expected to continue until the hearing is complete at least. DA states about 12 weeks until the next step (6 visitations.)

1) Since the allegations require some change in the parenting plan  and the additional cost increase creates a hardship DH should not have to bear alone, would you personally suggest a modification of CS and the Custody order be started now, or wait until after the criminal charges against SS have completed?

Thanks,
4honor

[socrateaser]

Now.