No info on Shrink OR school

[Ref]

Dh just got done with mediation w/ BM. The new agreement gives BM the responsibility to confer with Dh about all matters such as switching schools, drs visits etc. SD just told Dh that she was seeing a therapist. BM never told him. She has never given him info on the school or anything.

When is the time to file contempt. She is constantly shutting DH out of SD's life. I am so worried that the therapist is a friend of BM's (she is going to school for therapy) and will be used against DH in court.

Should we file for contempt now?

[Stepmom0418]

I would suggest sending a certified letter to BM and let her know that DH is aware that sd is seeing a theripist and that dh would like to have the name address and phone number of the person sd is seeing. Make sure and send it certified with return reciept and put a time frame for her to respond. If she fails to respond then file the contempt and proceed.

This way you can proove that you tried to obtain the information with out court involvement and SHE is the one that wont communicate with dh.  Plus the certified letter will back up your claim of contempt too!!

Good Luck to you and your DH.



we use the certified letter with every single letter sent to BM in our case.

[patton]

The way you stated this above is that BM is to confer wtih DH on all matters.  If they have joint custody he has as much right to access the the school, doctor visits and therapist visit records as the BM.  

Does the court order actually say she is ORDERED to confer with him?

If not it's not a contempt.  Plus you are still going to need some evidence to PROVE this is contempt or they will believe her when she says I told him that.

Send her a return receipt certified letter stating you would like the name of the therapist, her doctor and her teacher at school, and to please return this information for certified return receipt letter and you are giving her X amount of days to let you know.  Then if she doesn't do that you have some evidence there that she is NOT supply you with the information.

The school would just need a copy of the court order showing you have joint custody.  If the teacher has an email, ask her for it, so you can keep up via email on activities and things.

[Ref]

The order states that she is to confer with him on matters such as schooling, extracurricular and medical. It was only ordered 4 months ago and she is continually breaking the order.

We have letters from her stating that she would not give him access to school information, but nothing that specifically states the extracurricular activities SD is doing. We contacted the school and had success all last year, but this year it is not coming through. The order states that she is to provide him with the information that he can not get on his own. We have a voicemail from a few years back saying that she would not help him with anything regarding their daughter and she would not work with him to get school pictures anymore.

The court order also specifically states that she is to provide him at the beginning of the school year(first week of August) with the parent/teacher days so that they may split the days. She has not provided that to DH.

She has told 13 year old SD that she may chose to come to visit (we only see her 6 times a year because of distance). She also told SD to argue with DH about visitation, that he just got 4 months ago.  

PBFH works as a sub teacher 3 days a month  and goes to school for counseling. We are afraid that she has been able to block DH's information requests from the school and sign SD up with a counselor who is a friend and is biased.