update on hearing

[crayiii]

Had the hearing before the judge Friday regarding my motion for clarification.

The judge agreed with my clarification on travel (wife's attorney agreed to it during his arguments), she also agreed to my set schedule for phone calls, her attorney argued against it.  

The other items I was asking for where things to prevent parental alienation.  She wouldn't allow my suggested language but she did order that if the child wishes to display any photos each parent would allow it.

After the judge finished she stated to me that these things should have all been worked out without going to court and that, with my salary, if I kept it up I could find myself paying for my wife's attorney.  I explained that I had tried and referenced the exhibits as proof but she she told me to talk with my wife's attorney and stay out of court...

After, while my wife's attorney and I were writting the order I asked him if they wanted to have a settlement conference since I was in town.  So we all sat down at his office and worked out a beginning to settlement.

My wife seemed a little angry about the settlement decisions.  Her attorney kept bringing up holiday's that I forgot and offering them to me.  My wife offered me 30-days in the summer and her attorney answered right back that 5-weeks was half and they should offer that to me.  He also said that he would right a provision that if I moved to the area that I would get substancially more time!!!  She wasn't happy with that!

The only thing that I didn't like was he wanted a hold harmless clause in case I filed bankruptcy.

So, in summary:

I got every long weekend in the year.
Alternating xmas, thanksgiving
Half of every winter break, springbreak, summer (July 4 of every year)
Joint everything (at the objections of my wife)
split travel costs
set weekends during March and Oct. (no long weekends)
Right to first refusal if I'm in the area (wife was upset at this)
I get all of the marital property (and debt)
No alimony
No attorney fees
CS will include substancial credits for me (lower my monthly amount by $250)

After the meeting my wife and I walked back to the courthouse and sat in the back for about an hour.  She said that she promised to stop all the crap if I would.  Then we laughed and joked and talked about life.

I feel good...

[socrateaser]

>So, in summary:
>
>I got every long weekend in the year.
>Alternating xmas, thanksgiving
>Half of every winter break, springbreak, summer (July 4 of
>every year)
>Joint everything (at the objections of my wife)
>split travel costs
>set weekends during March and Oct. (no long weekends)
>Right to first refusal if I'm in the area (wife was upset at
>this)
>I get all of the marital property (and debt)
>No alimony
>No attorney fees
>CS will include substancial credits for me (lower my monthly
>amount by $250)

Good job. Congratulations.

>
>After the meeting my wife and I walked back to the courthouse
>and sat in the back for about an hour.  She said that she
>promised to stop all the crap if I would.  Then we laughed and
>joked and talked about life.
>
>I feel good...

"...like I knew that I would, now!" -- James Brown, Godfather of Soul

Um...what happened with the cigarette smoking issue?

[crayiii]

Ahh, that's in there too.