Molestation Allegations...

[gemini3]

Soc,

All parties reside in VA.  BM has sole physical, both parties have joint legal.  

Almost two years ago BM accused my fiance's previous girlfriend's son of molesting on of thier daughters.  Allegations never went anywhere.  Boy was 8 or 9, daughter was five.  They were tickling each other and he accidentally touched her private.  No charges were ever filed, DSS never investigated.  

BM is bringing up these allegations again.  Sent an e-mail to the effect of "our daughter was molested at your house".  

How do you suggest we respond?

[socrateaser]

>How do you suggest we respond?

Ask her why she is raising this issue, in view of the fact that the alleged child molester is no longer involved in any relationship with the child?

Always try to ask a new question rather than answer one. That way you draw your opponent into telling you everything, while you tell them nothing.

This isn't something you can get away with in court. But, everywhere else, it's a very efficient means of getting the job done.

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[gemini3]

Soc,

We just found out that my fiance's ex has hacked into his e-mail account and deleted all the e-mails that reference anything involving the kids.  I'm pretty sure it's illegal, and this has gotten completely out of hand.  What should we do?

[socrateaser]

>Soc,
>
>We just found out that my fiance's ex has hacked into his
>e-mail account and deleted all the e-mails that reference
>anything involving the kids.  I'm pretty sure it's illegal,
>and this has gotten completely out of hand.  What should we
>do?

Depends on what sort of proof you have of this allegation. If you have something conclusive, you can call the FBI. If you don't, then you can change your password, and just move on, because proving this sort of thing is very difficult and the authorites won't get involved unless some very big public matter is at stake (e.g., thousands of SS#s stolen) -- which I don't see from your facts.

[socrateaser]

>That's what I figured.  I have her acknowledgment that she
>did it, and she sent all the messages back to him.
>
>What concerns me most, aside from feeling completely violated
>that she's been reading all of our e-mails to and from each
>other and using that information to manipulate us, is that she
>read a lot of financial stuff too, and she read a lot of back
>and forth between us about the upcoming case.  Can she use
>this information in court?  How do we stop it?

A person who offers evidence has the obligation of authenticating documents. An email is generally not authenticatable unless the witness testifies to where it came from. If the parent testifies that she got it from your email box, then she's admitting to a theft.

Believe it or not, this wouldn't make the evidence automatically inadmissible, although you could certainly request that the court refuse to admit it because it was unlawfully obtained.

But, you'd have it on record that the parent has committed a crime, so you could report it to the local district attorney. DA might prosecute because it's a slam dunk.