Advice for ongoing custody issue

[MYSONSDAD]

on taking pictures. I was told the cameras where you can print the date and time are too easy to adjust the information. Stand in front of your TV, turn the channel and the date and time come up on the screen. The computer might be another thought. Take two pictures a day, one early and then one later, showing you had the child all day. Ask people to stop over, get witnesses.


"Children learn what they live"

[MYSONSDAD]

most time and date stamped cameras are too easy to adjust. Most digital cameras offer the same option. On my digital, properties will show time/date of upload, when taken and time/date of any modifications. Burning on a DVD will also give the same properties.

just curious...

"Children learn what they live"

[shawn]

There is no lawyer in my city who specializes in family law/child custody. There is a lawyer in a neighboring city who's main focus is family law and I talked to him, but he referred me to the lawyer I have now. I believe I have a good lawyer, but he seems busy or unorganized. This is my second lawyer. Will it look bad to the judge for me to keep changing lawyers? I've made another appointment with my lawyer for next week and if he doesn't get off his but this time I will find another one. I can find a custody specialist in my state but not anywhere near me. I heard it's better to have a lawyer that knows the judge, though. Is this true and what if I brought in an out of town lawyer who doesn't know the judge?

Thanks you for your prayers, they are much needed.

[Kent]

The problem with digital pictures is that they are too easy to manipulate.
With programs like PhotoShop Pro (and many others) it is not a problem to take a picture of a person, and place someone else's head on it. Or tak a picture of you, merge it with another, and suddenly there are two persones in the picture.
If you're good at this, nobody will be able to tell.
You cannot do this with 35mm, unless you are a photographic professional and have a darkroom.

Kent!

[Kent]

An out-of-county family law specialist is better than an attorney who knows the judge but doesn't know your case, nor wants to familiarize himself with it.
Judgesd do look unfavorable upon people who keep on changing attorneys.

Keep in mind, your attorney works for you. YOU set the tone, not him. If you want him to be familiar with your case and information, YOU need to insist on an appointment during which YOU tell him the information, and provide supporting evidence.

However, it is also up to YOU to bring up relevant issues. No attorney wants to waste his and your time with irrelevant things.
If you believe something is relevant, and your attorney doesn't see it, explain to him why it is relevant, with supporting case law.

The only thing my attorney did was present my case just as I told her to. I did all the research, picked out the relevant issues, provided the evidence, and prepared for court. Then I had a meeting with her during which I persented her with everything, and in court she presented it all.

Kent!

[notnew]

Look, you have all the evidence you need. File for a change of custody due to a significant change in circumstance (YOU have child all the time and mother doesn't want her full time.)

Sounds to me like you are being jerked around by your attorney. If you feel comfortable with the process, get rid of the attorney and go it on your own. Caution: you will need to make sure you follow procedures to the letter. It takes a bit of research and I would suggest you have someone close to you help you out with things.

Personally, I would send a letter to the attorney asking why he requested a continuance and that you are directing him to file for a a change of custody based on the above items. You are the employer and have hired the attorney to do a job for you. Also, you may want to look into the commission that oversees attorneys in your state, this may be a violation of some kind. It does not seem like you are being adequately represented.

You have witness' who are willing to testify, right?
copies of receipts for all that you are doing for the child outside of your CS obligation.

This is just my opinion - not legal advice. You need to do what you feel is best for the best interests of your child and yourself.

[shawn]

I don't think I could represent myself very well. I will be nervous enough just going to court with an attorney.

I have an appointment with him this week and I am going to tell him to either get something accomplished or I will find another attorney.

Yes I have witnesses who will testify. I have kept every receipt for everything I've bought my daughter. I do not have any CS obligations as my daughter's mother and I were never married, and we have not been to court yet. But yes  I have supported my daughter and have receipts to prove it.

[shawn]

I dropped my daughter off with her mother on Thursday. On the way to drop her off, I told my daughter we were going to see her mother. She tells me ugh uh (as in no) and said "I wanna see daddy". So I recently bought a voice recorder and I had it and waited a little bit and said it again and recorded her saying it. When I dropped her off, I had it recording in my pocket and my daughter started saying ugh uh again telling her mother that she wanted to see daddy. She kept on saying this and her mother told her that that wasn't nice and had an expression on her face as if she didn't like hearing what she was hearing. This is not the first time my daughter has done this but the first time i've had a voice recorder to record it. Will this have any effect in court or  be worthless? My daughter is only 20mo old and it's not like I could tell her before hand to say all of that.

Now its the weekend (Friday) and I've kept my daughter every weekend for months because her mother basically wants to party. She calls me and tells me she's started her in daycare and she'll be going there 3-4 times a week. And I usually get her on Friday but says I can get her tomorrow (Saturday) because daycare is not open.

In my eyes it looks like she's trying to keep me from my daughter now, all because my daughter has been saying she wants to see daddy. And I have no  legal visitation or anything because we haven't been to court yet.