Don't know what to do

[Wellsey1126]

my daughter lives in Kentucky, I live in Virginia, we are about eight hours away.  She will be four in June.  Since the mother and i break up in april of 2006 the only time i could see my child would be me to drive the full 8 hours.  Which at the time was understandable, being my daughter was turning one.  Since november of 2006 i have been paying child support, never missed a payment, i still send clothes, toys, etc.  Well now my daughter is turning 4.  And for the last month i have been trying to discuss with my x when we could meet half way so i can spend time with my daughter down where i live for a week, than drive back up.  She keeps ignoring me, will not anwser any of the questions.  She txt me back once saying there was a storm and caught an attitude with me. 
I just don't understand the issue.  I've never done anything to put my daughter in danger. 
So my question is how would i approach this if the mother in unwilling to come to some sort of agreement, what can i do to get closer on having rights to see my child every so often on my terms. (for example: Just meeting me half way every so often and letting me spend time with my kid for some time)

Thanks in advance.

[*iLUVmySD*]

Who moved away from who? Also are there any custody/visitation orders?

[gemini3]

Do you have a current visitation order?  If so, you need to be more assertive in your requests.  If you have a visitation order, denying you visitation is contempt of a court order.

If you don't have one, you will need to file a motion for visitation in Kentucky.  You must go to the clerks office to file, or hire an attorney in KY to handle it for you.  I recommend having an attorney.

[daddio4]

I have a daughter close to Kentucky and I am out of state. I had to hire an attorney where my ex wife lives to go for visitation. Check the laws in Kentucky very carefully before you proceed. And find an attorney that specializes in father rights. If you do get the modification where she has to meet you 1/2 way, be sure to exercise all of your visitation. Other wise the ex spouse can come back and do another modification taking away your visitation all together if approved by the courts.

[Lovestoread]

Do you have a court order or visitation in place?

Are you established as the father of the child on the birth certificate? In other words was a paternity test done?

If not, you need to do these things. File for paternity. File for custody and visitation and then if she's the one that moved she's going to have to foot part of the transportation.

You have a right to be in your childs life. She can't hold the strings like this on you forever and allowing her to have this power over you is just wrong.

Don't let her keep getting away with it. Otherwise you'll never be in your childs life.

Good luck to you.