Needing help and suggestions for court

[Heston]

Just a thought... since you want the pick-up's to remain as is, and that is what was recommended by the JCO.  I would ask that the motion be dropped because the mother has not met the change in circumstance test.  Any time there is a change to a CO, the petitioner must first prove that a "substantial change in circumstance" has occured.  If one has not occured, then the judge usually won't hear the case.  Sometimes, if it's unclear whether one has been met, the judge will hear the case and then deny the motion based on failure to prove a change in circumstance.

So, for me, the first step would be to request the motion be denied for failure to meet change in circumstance test.  If that doesn't work;

Regarding dealing with her narcissism.  I recommend reading "Splitting:  Protecting Yourself When Divorcing a Borrderline or Narcissist".  You're not divorcing, but it has some great tips on dealing with this kind of person in court.  This site also has a good article on dealing with a Narcissist in court:  http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/narcissist.php (http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/narcissist.php)

I'm am also a huge fan of low/no contact.  This may work for you as well:  http://www.thepsychoexwife.com/appropriate-means-of-contact-with-high-conflict-personalities/ (http://www.thepsychoexwife.com/appropriate-means-of-contact-with-high-conflict-personalities/)

The motion the BM filed asked for other things to be changed.  All things in the CO that were put in place after previous ways of doing things had been tried.  So I did a counter motion stating why I wanted things to remain as they are.  So I now have to present to the court the reasons and I can say there is no change in circumstance.  I also did a motion for contempt because I can show that she has not adhered to the CO and is now asking that is be changed to the way she wants it.  The hearing got postponed because the BM made things turn ugly and filed motions with totally fictitious allegations and all motions will get dealt with in an all day hearing.

Thanks for the info on the books and website.  I will definitely check them out.