Restraining order effect on SO's move away evaluation

[fbret]

The situation sucks! We're both divorced. My ex slapped me with a TRO (that I did not fight not realizing the consequences).
My wife to be is trying to move to my county (20 miles away), in the process, relocating her kids. Her ex disagreed, so they started a custody evaluation.
Today, we find out:
- he signed a lease in the town his ex lives so that he can offer "continuity of education".
- he got all the public records on my situation and dropped them in the evaluator's laps...

How should we approach this situation?

Thanks

-Fred

[bloom6372]

What kind of records did he get? I mean, what were the accusations? Is it too late to contest the TRO?

If ONE parent lives in the district, the children can continue their education at their current schools. Your SO would just have to transport them there and back. 20 miles isn't so much time that it would be unreasonable to travel each day, especially if there is a highway to travel on (since they are usually faster). So, if your SO can do the transportation, then really it should be a non-issue.

Look into what your state looks at for custody determinations. Write/type up the answers for each parent. Then compare. If your SO has had primary custody, doing the majority of the child care, taking care of medical/dental/education needs, she should be alright.

[ocean]

How long is the RO good for? You can say, it was a messy divorce and it was in the best interests for both of you to stay away from each other and there has been no issues since it was put into effect and that it will be dismissed on XXX.

Also, the school change in a big one BUT it is summer and she can say that many children move during the summer. Offer the father longer times on the weekends and if he is willing to pick up fri after school and return to school monday morning, offer that. His time should be about the same, 20 miles is nothing and surprised it is an issue. In my state you do not need permission for under 30 miles.

I would ask GAL if the school issue can be addressed, so that way you can sign children up for start of school. And that you will be staying in that area for the summer break (they can not tell you where to stay for vacation as long as the father is getting his court ordered time, meet in his area or same place until new court orders are set).

You are legally married? That would hold up much better in court, then fiance. If dad is a good father, offer what he wants, even 50/50 but the school district will be yours. Can do one week on/one week off. 20 min car ride is fine to school, most bus rides are that long around here.