A must read...

[nosonew]

And same goes for this situation.  I know MANY people who are in a serious custody situation due to just ONE of the parents.  I guess I was thinking everyone COULD be as sane and reasonable as my ex and I were...believe me...my dh has one just like you...that is why I am here in the first place! :)

[MYSONSDAD]

Count yourself as one of the lucky ones. Having communication helps the entire situation and is so much easier for the kids. Their lives will be richer for it.

My attorney is going to attempt to settle before trial. How I wish she would meet me half way. Right now, she won't even talk, just denies my time.


"Children learn what they live"

[Hawkeye]

It's unfortunate but true, for far too many kids, you're in the minority, nosonew. You're to be commended for putting the children first.

If the majority of parents could rise above their own selfishness, and act as you and your ex did, we wouldn't need a class action, or even places like SPARC. Maybe you should write a "How To" book, describing how thoughtful, caring parents can divorce each other without hurting their children.  

>do what my ex and I did when we divorced, none of this would
>be an issue.  I immediately realized that he could NOT pay the
>state set c.s. amount, and requested the court REDUCE the
>amount to a very reasonable amount I knew he could afford.
>Secondly, he was able to see and talk to his son as much as
>possible, which amounted to 3 times the "current guidelines
>for visitation". Sorry, but parents shouldn't get "visitation"
>with their kids...they should be allowed as much access to
>them as possible given the distance and work schedules of the
>parents. If at all possible, 50/50.  Luckily for our son, we
>put him as the priority over our own distaste for each other.
>
>
>That is called loving your child.  Putting the CHILD before
>your own wants, needs, and desires.  By doing so, my ex and I
>now have a very amicable relationship...as do both
>stepparents...my husband and my ex's wife.  And my son has
>FOUR parents who love him immensely and put his well-being
>first.  THAT is called caring for your child, that is loving
>your child, that is called, being a parent.
>
>
>

[mango]

It would great to have each divorcing parent to be legally obligated to read the "How To" book, and commit to putting hte children first.

Even take a pop quiz, after.....

Not just have it written in the order and ignored.

[c_alexander]

Was wondering if anyone had an update on the progress of the lawsuits?