Quote from: Heston on Aug 08, 2011, 12:34:42 AM
Thanks. There are even more problems. I have so much evidence of contempt of the CO that the BM is desperately creating false evidence. She has a relationship that is far too friendly with the counseller who is totally on her side. My child now tells me her mom tells her to lie to the counseller to say she doesn't like me and that I am mean. The mom does that already. She has already built up a case with that very gullible counselor. I already reported here that after filing the hideous untruthful motion the mom showed up an hour and a half late having got the cops to accompany her and showed them a bag of vomit claiming my child vomitted because she was forced to see me. That means fake evidence and looks like she tried to bring the child but I was not home. A perfect excuse. No matter that I emailed her (as per the CO - she has a cell that she views emails on) asking if she was bringing my daughter and asking if she was delayed.... and that I had waited one and a half hours before leaving my home to take my other child to an apt, assuming my child was not being brought for drop off because the BMs MO is to ignore my attempts to find out if she is on her way, etc when she fails to bring her.
Ok....first let's take a deep breath and calm down some. I understand the stress level you are going through. You getting worked up about it will hurt you. What is happening here is a someone is trying to get a reaction out of you and get you so stressed that you will make a mistake.
Family court judges have seen all that your ex is trying and then some. They will not be fooled by any of this. The counselor is not even an issue becasue she is not even a licenses professional. All you have to do is object to her credentials and then ask that a GAL be appointed for your child and request court appointed counseling with a counselor that must be aggred upon by both parties and if not one that is appointed by the court with the GAL's recommendation.
All evidence must be factual for starters. Also, your wife's side is not allowed any suprises. Send a certified letter to her attorney requestion discovery and that they submit to you copies of all that will be presented in court.
Concerning the vomit.....No judge will admit it or even consider it and before the accompanying officer can even testify they must be subpoenad and I am not sure who would be willing to take time off for this. Even then the officer will have to testify that he actually saw the child vomit but it is hignly unlikely that he can testify as to why. He is not a licenses counselor nor is he a medical professional.
Quote from: Heston on Aug 08, 2011, 12:34:42 AM
Now she brought my child with cops once more. This time she told them lies, such as she is afraid I will kill the child because her father is "evil". The cops came into my house to investigate. My child told me afterwards that her mom told her to tell the cop that her dad was "mean". My child then opened up to tell me the other lies her mom is telling her to say.
It will not matter that she showed up with the cops. Judge will pretty much say......so what.
Also, your ex has been held in contempt before and you have evidence with proof of that contempt.
Quote from: Heston on Aug 08, 2011, 12:34:42 AM
I am up against a totally biased counselor who believes the BM and child totally, therefore she will be convincing in court. The other counselor is associated with the first one. My daughter is not likely to tell her she has been told to lie and that counselor does not want to become involved in court related issues. I cannot afford to take my child to another new and expensive counselor at this moment in time but if she doesn't tell a counselor about the lies, the consequences are unthinkable....also my daughter may not open up to a new one. She tells me because she trusts me. But I have to get evidence that she is told to lie to counter what the BM is doing, i.e. trying to get me removed from my child's life. Also, I have only two weeks to provide my evidence to the BMs attorney.
Counselors are always biased....at least in my experience. Once they build a rapport with someone they will seemingly always take their side. Licensed professionals are able to separate personal and professional feelings when it comes to legal proceedings. Keep in mind that you are not obligated to just take what her conselor is saying. Based on parent alienation you can request that your child see a counselor of your choosing. You have that right. Just becuase your ex has chosen a counselor does not meant you do not have the right to get a professional to rebutt her testimony and I can assure you a licenses counselor will carry a whole lot more weight in court.
Quote from: Heston on Aug 08, 2011, 12:34:42 AM
With each visitation, cops are being employed in a frenzied attempt by the BM to create evidence. Knowing how the family courts work, this "evidence" will be taken on board, after all it is a counselor and cops... and a BM who is BPD and excels at lying convincingly.
Again, this is not going to matter. In many divorces because parents disagree law enforcement are calle to ensure a peaceful exchange of the children. The only thing that is happening here is the cops are present during your exchange. Unless you are arrested and charges are filed the fact they were there is pretty much inadmissable.
Quote from: Heston on Aug 08, 2011, 12:34:42 AM
The BM is behaving ever more frenzied. She has escaped accountability all her life and I can now see she has probably used these "warfare" tactics in various scenarios over the years to escape scrutiny. This is what she is doing now. The BM knows she has been in contempt of the CO. There is proof of that. The BM is therefore making me out to be a monster, both to the counseler, (meant to counsel the child but whom the BM sees for her own counselling) and now to local police in my area. She is forcing my child to lie to the police and lying herself. First it was the motion alleging I told my child her mom would murder her. Now it's a report to the cops that she is afraid the father (I) will kill her.
Yet no investigation was launched. Police reports are not evidence.
Quote from: Heston on Aug 08, 2011, 12:34:42 AM
It has become a non-stop attack on all levels. Lies in emails. Lies to cops and counselors. The BM wants me out of my daughter's life. The stepfather is an overpowering influence on that score too. Courts only take notice of proof. The BM's fake proof will be listened to. How do I obtain sufficient proof of this relentless alienation? Bear in mind the other attorney needs the evidence in two weeks! And if I ask my daughter to see another counselor, if its even possible to get one, whatever she says or does, she will be interrogated when she returns home and the BM will know exactly what is going on. Therefore, I cannot talk freely to my child or tell her why she needs to speak to someone else about what is going on. She needs to tell someone else what she has told me, but cannot be told why. It makes it pretty near impossible to get her to trust another person to tell them. It's like entrapment and there appears to be no way out...if I am not able to overcome what is going on now, I will lose my child. My other child is greatly affected by what's going on too.
There is absolutely nothing that they can do to take you out of your childs life. Absolutely nothing unless you have comitted some really heinous acts and I do not see that as the case.
To put it in further context....you child can actually say in court that she does not want to see you and that still will not be enough. The child does not get to make the choice. Your rights as a father cannot be usurped unless you have commited crimes that will show you as a danger to the child