I would love to have an link to the schedule! That would be awesome. And he made mention that he has access to it online for year in advance but he's not sharing it with me. I plan a girl trip with my best friend every year and I would like to plan it during his set off. But right now I don't know when his set off is. So since I'm just going to give him some dates and then he can look it up and tell me what works best for him. I don't want to get fired and if she thinks about it she really shouldn't want me to get fired either.
You are exactly right. You are probably obligated to pay her child support
and I'm sure she wants to continue receiving that so it would be best for her if you kept your job. Per our order DD's father pays me child support and a portion of her child care expenses. Per the order he is supposed to reimburse me within two weeks of when I give him the receipt. He never does and in our state they can suspend driver's license and professional licenses if people get so far behind. I realized that it wasn't in my best interests to pursue it because #1 he does pay me eventually just on his terms and #2 right now he is on a med unit so if he can't drive or has his professional license suspended he could lose his job and then wouldn't be able to pay child support. So I just let it go and know that instead of paying me for a month at at time he'll write me one big check for 4 months at a time.
In my opinion your ex-wife is angry at you trying to get back at you the only way she knows how. And unfortunately for you I think that if things go your way in court she is going to be even more angry. So I do wish you luck. I know how angry and vindictive some of us women can get.