I sure wish you were MY X husband! Iam a NCM iNPA. I am disabled. I had been a nurse for 25 year althought I was a
SAHM for a good portion of that time.
My X couldn't handle the factt hat I left him. So he hired an attorney with no scruples ( the best kind to have I guess) and took the children from me. For the first year adn a half we had 50-50, which I never had a problem with. He took his nights but I had the kids while he worked during the daytime and I had all snow and sick days. he had not problem with this until my new husband and I had achild of our own. Up to that point Inever asked for
child support. But after our baby was born we could not afford all the groceries as my husband was the only one working in the house and X never sent the kids with breakfast. They ate all thier meals at my house. When Iasked him to provide groceries he refuse adn out of necessity I took him for child support.
The suddenly our house was unfit, my husbadn was a danger tothe kids and we were awful people...in the X's eyes. Buthis lawyer hired a custody evaluator. My lawyer didn't fight for me and I became a NCM.
My X took that negative custody report everywhere he could proclaiming himself the children's savior adn me an unfit mother. Althougth hehad not proo omy being unfit.-
I am NOT unfir by the way. New husband and I have two children of our own who live with us and we are the first to volunteer for school activites adn do homework with our school aged child. We both hold clean child clearances.
But my X has PAS'ed the children agianst me adn things are very difficult as I see them only EOW adn half od summers. Phone contact is nearly impossible between visits becasue X makes it so uncomfortable fo the children. So you can imiagine the relationship between the kids and me these days.
On top of all that, my husband, who used to support my kids from my first marriage, became disabled. I returned to work. My X took me for child support BEFORE I got my first paycheck. Then I became disabled. Iget less than $900 a month, but I still pay him $150 a month. he makes over 50K!
Your X needs to wake up dn smell the coffee. This is not the dark ages. You were 50 percent responsible for the children being brought into the world. What's wrong with aknowledging that with you oficially having 50 percent custody? Tell her my story and remind her how lucky she is. I would giv emy right arm for 50 persent of the time with my children and have offered to not take the X for support as long as the kids had what they need. But he refuses to give up his "status".