I had to do exactly that , The video camera is , In my opinion a very good idea , That way she can't make up a story about what happened . And I will garuntee the end result will only be worse if you let her do this , This not giving visits is bad for the kids , And It teaches her that she can , Here's the other side of the coin , She will turn this around and say you quit showing up , I used the video camera , And she tried to have her atty write letters saying that There WILL BE LEGAL ACTION !! iF THIS INVASION OF PRIVACY DOES NOT STOP , My atty's return letter was , This . ( wash state )
DEAR DIPSHITS . : My client fully intends to excorcise his rights to visit His son , And This video taping is for the purpose of makeing sure there are no further innapropriate claims coming from your client about the transfers of the child , My client fully intends to continue video tapinG
Now here's what the video taping does , It makes every one behave and really it is a safety net for all of you , But I warn You Keep your mouth shut , You are there to pick up and that is all you have to say period ! then shut up , This is emotional and even while my wife was taping I got pissed and said a few things myself , But heres the real deal about video taping , My atty said it will never make it into the court , But they will write some stupid letters about it ,or say something about it . And My atty said , We will just say at court , If she doesn't want the taping what is she hiding, And that was about the result at trial , When I was testifying , I said she lies about things that go on , And of course her atty said
Like prove what she is lying about " I said well why did she not want the Video taping then , And you wrote me letters saying you don;t want it .
Her atty said " Well whats video taping going to prove if we show it " I said" Mom Lies about these things she say's I do at the transfer "
So He asked Like " How would we know that " I said "Well Like I want the video taping She Is against it . I want to show the truth , So her atty said , What would the tapes show , I said " They will show Me going up and getting My son and getting in the car and leaving ' The tape will not show Any of the things that she say's happens " And that she is Lying to cause trouble "
The conclusion was . The way the judge looked at Me And gave me an undoubtable look of approval , And the judge was watching Mom Fidget , My atty said that The was certain that the judge got an understanding Of what was really going on , But I say again that the tapes were never shown at trial . But I thought that it played out well in My favor , So I am telling you the way these freaks work is to Separate you from your child , Then tell the child a bunch of crap , It does absolutely no good to go along with this , I drug My son away kicking and screaming , And I would have done it again, and I urge you to do the same , Because the mom is Poisening There mind , And what I believe happened with My actual expirience is , My son now see's that Things are good with dad , And he doesn't like her talking bad about me , And I have proved to her that visits will occur , And she has given up for the most part , This will get better when she learns that you will be there for the visits . If you let her do it , You teach her that she can win By using sick behavior , I urge you to show up with the camera , And stand there outside with it , And say are the kids ready to go , If they cry You have to take them any way , She is doing this < And My psycho use to tell My son that I did not love Him and I was going to hurt Him , And he would be terrorised , And I grabbed Him ANd Pulled His screaming kicking little feet and hands gently away from Mom and Immediatlly took him screaming to the car and Gave Him a lolipop , And he Quickly adjusted , And we drove away , She tried this stunt another time and called the GUardian ad Litem , And the guardian ad Litem said Come to her office , So I quick got Him a candy and came to the office , With a happy child , I could only have done this , Because I knew when I drag him away , And he gets five minutes down the road with Me he is all good
If I could scream this at you through the computer Hear it , DON'T LET HER DO THIS !!!! Show up and add it to the next appearance if she denies the visit , Be civil , She can't be in contempt of a
court order if you don't show up ' , And Yes I debated the damage to My son and almost walked away , But I did not , And this will pass when she learns that you are serious , I think we all go through the debate of walking away , You need to win for your kids , And I have won for My son , And the tables are turning because , I started to make My visits good , and don't say bad things about mom . The tables have changed and he openly states That he doesn't like His mom talking bad about me , And I encouraged Him to tell her that , And he has , He told me he told her to shut up , and that it hurts his feelings , And 'He said' that 'she said 'she would quit doing it' , And he seems to be very happy now , Don't let this get you down , I had to force my self to have good visits when all this is going on , Its not that hard to push them on the swing , and go get toys games and hobbies to play with them with , JUST DO IT , And your children will love you and the mother can't stop that , I could go on and on , But the real deal is love you kids and make the vists good , play games read books, And watch cartoons with them
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