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Under what circumstances did your ex get sole custody in 1996? How old are your daughters now? You might petition the court for more time and maybe another testing series. If you have health insurance why not get some counseling/testing on your own and see what they think?
Good Luck,
Maid Marion

Seems to me that if you have custody then she should be found in contempt and arrested for child snatching. Do you have an attorney? This recently happened to me. My ex took of with our daughter. We had joint custody at the time but I was granted temporary sole custody by the court. I took the temp orders to the police and they issued an bulletin for his arrest nation wide. He was apprehended in Florida and is now facing felony child snatching charges. I have since gotten permanent sole custody. I don't understand how, if your ex has been arrested 3 time, thatyour ex hasn't been charged and incarsated by now. Something doesn't make sense. Good luck.
maid maroin

I have sole custody.
Ex owes CS since 2/17/06.
CS amount not yet determined by court. Petition filed awaiting a court date.
Ex currently incarcerated.
All parties live in RI.
 Question
1. Will he be relieved completely of his CS obligation while he is incarcerated?

2.  Will he be charged arrearage for this time period?
 Maid Marion

I am at a loss for words and am unable to give any advice but I will pray for you and yours and hope that the little one is returned to you all swiftly.
In God's Love,
Maid Marion

Think I should add that Grandfather was here(RI) for the trial. Grandparents live in Florida. That's where they were headed/
Maid Marion

Was wondering if I could get your opinion on my situation?
Father and I had joint custody with him having placement of our child. (He was a stay home parent. I use that term very losely)
He wants to relocate. We have a trial and judge denys his relocatoin motion.
He leaves anyways( I mean he literally left the courthouse, packed a truck and he'd for Florida the same day.)
His father helped him pack the truck and drive it. Mother knew all about it.
I got temp orders for sole custody.They were apprehended and My child is now with me and I have perm. sole custody.
Grandmother keeps calling here. Told her if she wants to communicate with our child she can do so through postal service. She refuses and has yet to send anything instead she keeps calling. I won't speak to her. I am ready and willing to help my child write letter to her. Child has not asked to do so yet.
Grandmother has issues and doesn't like to be told what to do. Hence she keeps calling like what I said doesn't matter. Both the grandparents were in on the attempted kidnapping. As a mother I want to protect my child from them but understand that child loves them therefore I'll allow the letters.
As a grandparent yourself do you tihnk I'm being unreasonable in wanting only postal contact right now? I'm trying to allow the contact but she refuses anyways. Is she being unreasonable?
Just wondering what your thoughts are seeing as your a grandparent yourself.
Good luck with you own situation.
Maid Marion

The longer he goes without seeing her and does nothing about it will only cause the courts to frown on him if and when he goes.
Is there a visitation scheduale through the court? If so, is she in violatoin of it?
If she doesn't have a valid reason for denying the visits then I don't see why a court, if he doesn't have a scheduale, wouldn't give him one. Again, the longer he goes with no contact the worse it looks for him.
If they had a regular scheduale before, can he prove it? Did he document all his visits?
If and when he does get his visits back be sure to keep a journal of all the time he is with the little one.
 Also, try and document the attemps he's making to see her so that if it does go to court he can show his efforts and her denial.
Good Luck,
Maid Marion

Don't know if it's a viable route but you could look into sueing in civil court for pain and suffering or maybe breach of contract. Probably a long shot but if you brought all your evidence from the last 10 years it might have some weight.
Good Luck,
Maid Marion

If possible, try and document the attempts to visit and her responses(Excuses) Sounds like you'll be back in court. If you don't have any documentation then it's his word against hers. (Tape recordings are great if they are legal in your state. E-Mails. Letters, anything you can do to show proof of the attempted visits.)
If she files another restraining order make sure to bring up the 3 that have been dismissed. I know it's a hassle to have to keep going and defending himself but each time it's thrown out is just one more for him to show the judge.They'll eventually see that she's abusing the system and her credibility will be hurt.
As far as where he takes the kids during his day visits, don't think that's any of her business. The over nights may be as she should know where there staying.
Finally, try to get a couple free consultations with differant attorneys and see what they have to say.
Good luck, Maid Marion

I haven't read the responses to your inquery but my situation is something like yours. Father and I had joint custody. Placement with him as he was the stay home parent during our marraige. (long story)
Recently he attempted to kidnapp our child but was apprehended and now is facing felony child snatching charges. grandparents were in on it.
I now have sole custody and agreed to supervised visits with a court appointed individual. He has since stoppped the visits and is now being held without bail as he violated the NCO.
My child thought that it was her fault as she wanted to go to Florida to visit grammy. I told her that it was not her fault in anyway and that she had every right to want to go visit her grammy. I told her that moving to a different place was a grownup choice and that she didn't do anything wrong. When he cancelled the visits I told her that the gal that supervised the visits called and said that her dad wasn't ging to be able to see her for awhile. She knows that I won't lie to her and she believes me.
Asfar as grammy goes. She constantly called here at first and then(on the advice from someone at this site) I picked the phone up one day and told her that if she wanted to communicate with our child that she could do so through the us postal service. She has yet to do so.
I never speak ill of either of them in front of my child and no one else is allowed to either. Even if what they have to say is the truth.
I plan to allow my child to communicate with both of them through letters (so that I can monitor what's being said) As soon as she askes to write to them I will allow her too. She hasn't asked yet.
It's hard sometimes to know what to do but remember that you are your child advocate and it's up to you to protect her. Reassure her that she's done nothing wrong and that if she wants to communicate with them that you'll help her write a letter or even draw some pictures for them if she wants. She may not understand what's wrong but she'll know that your willing to let her communicate with them if she wants to. She'll understand why it has to be this way when she gets older.
Good luck and God Bless,
Maid Marion