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i was charged with disorderly conduct, possession of an immitation firearm, and possession with intent to distribute.

what can i do?

no. our CO says nothing about giving him access. in fact, it never contemplated that i would obtain insurance for them.

it only states:

"Entitlement to Complete Information: Each parent shall be entitled to complete and detailed information from all pediatricians, physicians, dentists, consultants, or specialists attending, treating or counseling the children, for any reason whatsoever, and to be furnished with copies of any reports given to one or the other parent. Each shall be entitled to complete and detailed information from all teachers, schools, day car facilities, summer camps or other institutions that the children may attend or become associated with in any way. Each of the parties shall be furnished with copies all reports given to the other."

"Health Insurance: The husband shall continue to maintain the medical and dental insurance on the minor children through his employment so long as it is reasonably available to him. Each party shall equally share any medical, dental, prescription, vision, orthodontic or mental health expenses for the minor children not covered by said insurance."

that is all i see....

so i will copy all EOBs and send to him via certified mail, since i haven't them via a documented method. this way there is no question he has what he needs.

which brings up the fact that i requested a copy of an EOB for DDs ortho coverage... and he refused.

am i required to provide the other parent with access to our health insurance account. the children are covered under this account secondary to insurance that is court ordered by the other parent.
it is thru bcbs federal and they cannot assure me that if i give him access that it will be limited access... meaning access to only the children's information.

the other parent says he needs this info to receive EOBs for the children. however i have a copy of every EOB and have offered to send him anything he needs.

our divorce agreement states that i am required to provide him with copies received from teachers, doctors, etc...
nothing about insurance other than he is to provide the insurance.

i only signed the children up under our insurance to save us all money since we already had family coverage.

by waiting to have children afterward. it stinks that your life has been on hold and with a dark cloud looming at all times.
my husband and i have three children together (5 in all). the tension of the conflict ridden situation definitely affects the entire family... including the little ones. at times i just wish i could be a mom without the struggle. it will happen one day.

i believe CONGRATS are in order..... to the beginning

......... and THE END. ;)

that's terrible. i'm so sorry to hear that.

i'm sure you are DH's rock.

i will pray for you all and that now SD will be out of grade school, the relationship can be rekindled. there are still some good years ahead.

you don't see her regularly?

ok.. called them back and spoke with the office manager.

got it worked out. i will be taking in a copy of our order to keep on file and she will be adding my information to the chart.

thanks for your help

the OP unilaterally changed dentist offices (we have 50/50).

i have called today to get billing information so that i may make a payment to the account.

they told me that they cannot give me any information until OP gives them consent, because of HIPPA.

she said that since he signed all the paperwork and that my name is not listed anywhere .... all they have is stepmoms name.

is that true?

i will talk with the school about it.

it had occurred to me that swim could be an outlet for her to relieve the stress. and i don't want to take that away.

BF only ever took DS to the therapist. and i tried to set up many appointments with the same therapist that BF chose for DD. BF kept canceling the appointments. putting it off... it was obvious that she needed help. she had a breakdown in the ER one night and refused to go with BF. i still don't know what was going on there, except that she may have heard him say that i was going to jail.

so after that BF said that she could begin therapy after spring break. never happened. he still canceled appointments.

then summer came... and they travel a lot during the summer. BF and I agreed that we would restart therapy for both children when school began. we even agreed on the psychologist (since the last therapist moved).

now... same thing. canceling appointments. interfering with them getting help and making excuses. i didn't even choose this office.

this is the way it usually works though... when BF shows out (ie yelling at physician, etc) in an office. it isn't long before he wants to change to another physician. and he has done it multiple times.

so i have been given advice.. that since he is unreasonably interfering with the children receiving psychological care when it is evident that they need it, then no judge would hold me in contempt for keeping the appointment information from him.

i don't know how i feel about this. i am afraid to do that.
i've always given him all info about the kids.