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I am sorry I need to state what the order states specifically so, you can understand.

"Pick up and return at Dunkin Donuts.  Friday pick-up curbside at mother's home.  No one to be present except parents at Dunkin Donuts.  Holiday visitation11am-7pm pick up and return curbside at the mother's home.
So, when you state that the mother can file a contempt of court charges against my boyfriend your information is inccorect b/c at no moment does it state that no one could not accompany my BF to the pick up and drop off at the curbside of the mother's home.  The only place that no one can accompany my BF to is the Dunkin Donuts so, me accompanying him and staying a block away is in no way a matter of contempt against my BF.  
Furthermore, my BF has even has inquired to judges and lawyers and they have all agreed that my BF is in no way violating the court order.  Now my BF has told these same individuals how the child's mother is in contempt of the court order b/c she has brought her sister, her mother, her neighbor to the Dunkin Donuts and they have been physically at the Dunkin Donuts.

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Well my boyfriend wants it to be at the local precinct because, he states the same thing that it will control her from doing anything that she isn't suppose to.  
I honestly don't believe that it will stop her in anyway because, the court hasn't done anything to her that is much of an impact to her that will get the message accross to her that you have to obey the law.  She thinks the law is a joke is what I perceive from her.

The order states that no one is to be present at the public place where the pick up and drop off is taking place.  I have never gone to the public place with my BF.  My BF has always parked his car a block away from the public place. The only thing is he makes sure I have a visual of him and that is it.  
What I did when she did the first incident in December in the presence of her daughter and my daughter.  I went to court and scheduled for mediation which she didn't even show up for.  So, since I did show up for the mediation I did have a one on one mediation and I explained to the mediator what has been happening that brought me to consider mediation with her.  The mediator after listening recommended that if I am accompanying my BF to the pick up and drop off that my BF should continue to park the car a block away as he has been doing and she also recommended that if she acts up as she has been doing to call the police and report her.  She told me to keep the reports and give them to my boyfriend so, that when he went to court he can show the judge what exactly the child's mother has been doing.
I honestly don't believe in the court system because, my BF has been there so many times and each time it has only been a verbal warning to the child's mother and so, I believe it is because, of this that she takes the court system as a joke.
 

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Thank you for that idea I will tell my BF to consider the idea.

I know he is capable of handling himself if he needs to.  
I have stopped going to the pick up and drop offs because, my BF feels if I refuse to go all the way and just stay in the public place to please her than I shouldn't go.  My BF say's their relationship is over and it's going to be two years soon and she needs to move on with her life.  My BF say's he is no longer her property.  My BF also hates having to explain to his child everytime she ask,"why I no longer come to the pick up or drop offs, when his child tell's him that she likes for me to come along?  
Honestly, I don't ever see me and his ex being cordial.  She is a liar and a very ugly person inside for all of her actions she has done against me and my BF.

Hi,

I appreciate your advice and I will let my BF know.  
The only thing is I believe that recording in NYS is illegal unless you obtain the consent of the individual you are attempting to record but, I could be wrong.  If you know where I could find out information regarding such matter I would appreciate it.

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I appreciate your story because, it allow's me to know that I am not alone in this because, that is how I felt.  Not that I am gloating at what you yourself or your partner have had to endure but, it's great to hear stories of similarity from other individuals.

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Hi,

Thank you for your input and your advice.  It will be taken into consideration.

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Thank you for your input & advice.  It will be taken into consideration.

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Hi,

Thank you for the information and your advice.  Your advice will be taken into consideration.

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Good Evening,

I am emailing here because, hopefully someone can assist me and my boyfriend in guiding us.  We currently reside in NYS.  We want to know is there a way to obtain the records to each of these incidents without subpoenas from the court to show the court evidence that my boyfriend's baby mother is harassing us and hopefully it can help my boyfriend to obtain full custody of his child.
It all started in Nov 2006, my boyfriend, my child and I were at home. We had just arrived from work and from picking up my child.  There was a knock on the door.  I inquired who it was an it was ACS. They were here b/c an anonymous call had been placed against me and my boyfriend alleging that I use drugs and abuse my child.  Also alleging my boyfriend abuses my child.  We went through the process and the case was closed due to it being unfounded.  Now the thing is after the case was closed we obtained the report but, it doesn't provide the caller information.  I want to know is there a way to obtain that information without a court subpoena to prove to the court that our suspicion of either the baby mother or a friend of the baby mother is where the call came from?
The next incident happened in December 2006 during the scheduled pick up of my boyfriends child at a court appointed public place.  The child's mother and the child's grandmother followed my boyfriend to where he had parked his jeep a block away.  As they both got close to the jeep the child's grandmother started using obsence language towards me.  My boyfriend heard what the child's grandmother was saying and so, he finished buckling up his daughter and closed the door to his jeep.  He than proceeded to state to the child's grandmother, "what is the problem?"  I immediately started dialing 911.  The child's grandmother charged towards the curbside and started yelling how my boyfriend had violated the court order by bringing me to the curbside of her daughter's residence.  Now my boyfriends court order doesn't state that he can't be accompanied by anyone to the scheduled pick up at the curbside.  The court denies anyone being present at the court appointed public place.  The court order visitation states the following: Pick-up and return at public place.  Friday pick up curbside at the mother's home.  No one to be present except parents at public place.  My boyfriend if I accompany him to the pick up and drop off parks his jeep a block away where I can have a visual of him.
My boyfriend informed the grandmother that if anyone was violating the court order was her own child for having brought her to the scheduled pick up at the public place.  The child's grandmother than told my boyfriend that no court was going to tell her that she couldn't accompany her child to the public place.  The child's mother than took out the court papers and stated,"these court papers, the court can kiss my ass?"  The child's mother and the grandmother eventually left and my boyfriend and I waited for the police.  My boyfriend filed a report against both of them.  That same night when he brought his child to the scheduled drop off the child's mother started screaming at him,"you have nothing to say now, where's your bitch?"  I was a parked in the jeep a block away.  My boyfriend turned and walked away from her.  Next thing the child's grandmother charges towards my boyfriend.  My boyfriend then back's into the street.  She than starts screaming to my boyfriend,"Hit me now."  My boyfriend told the child's grandmother,"look at how ridiculous you look in front of your grandchild."  The child's grandmother than stated to my boyfriend,"you don't care about your child."  My boyfriend replied,"I don't worry I leave it to the court."  He than walked away.  My boyfriend came to the jeep and told me what had happened.  We didn't call the police this time we just left.  As my boyfriend was driving his cell phone rang. I answered it.  It was the child's mother.  She than started to say,"Hi Bitch."  I stood quiet.  The child's grandmother than stated,"Can't say anything scaredy cat."  I stood quiet. She hung up the phone.  
We were at my apartment when I received a restricted call on my cell phone.  All I recall the person saying,"Bitch,"and hung up.
Can we possibly obtain video from the public place where these incident's occurred without a court order?  As far as the call's is there a way to request from the cell phone companies a trace of the call's that came into our cell phone's for those two incidents without a court subpoena?  My boyfriend obtained a temporary order of protection against the child's mother and the child's grandmother for these incidents.
In January I went to court and I informed them of the incident all they offered me was the opportunity to come to mediation with both parties: child's mother and grandmother.  I went to the scheduled mediation but, neither of them showed up.  Being that the mediation is voluntary is there something I could obtain from the mediation center that my boyfriend could submit to the court to show that I did this.
In January my boyfriend had the child's mother arrested for violation of the temporary order of protection but, after this happened she started harassing me.  
On February 2006 I received an email supposedly from my boyfriend stating that he was messing around with a bestfriend of his that happens to be a female.  Please note me and his bestfriend who is a female get along and my boyfriend doesn't have a relationship except friendship with the girl.  Anyway supposedly my boyfriend sent it to me by mistake is what the email was to come across as.  Is there a way to make the company where the email came from look into finding out where the email originated from? We are hoping it leads back to the child's mother or one of her friends.  The only thing is there a way to obtain this without any court order?
Approximately two days later the child's mother came from behind where the jeep was parked and as she got in front of the jeep she turned around and started doing obsence gestures towards me.  I was sitting alone in the jeep because, my boyfriend was waiting for the child's mother at the public place.  I dialed 911 immediately and reported the incident.  When my boyfriend returned to the jeep he found out about the incident.  My boyfriend was upset that that had occurred while in his absence.  The police arrived and I filed a report.  
I then went on Monday to the criminal court to see what options could be offered to me.  Once again I was only offered mediation and I informed the clerk that the last time I was offered the same option and she never showed up.  I than left the court.
About two weeks later I accompanied my boyfriend to a scheduled parenting time to the curbside of the residence and the child's mother came downstairs and took a picture of me from the curbside.  I called 911.  When the police arrived they told me that that wasn't harassment.  I then did research and upon my investigation it clearly based on the NYS Law's it was a part of harassment. I went to the local precinct in the city where the incident had occurred and I explained to the police officer the incident and he told me that taking a picture in a public place is not harassment. I explained to him their is no reason for it and it is annoying.  He then told me to file the report.  I filed it.  Is there a way for us to obtain the police report to any of these incidents and also the 911 call's without any court order's so, when my boyfriend returns to court he can use the information as evidence against her?
So, as you can see my boyfriend and I have had alot to endure from his baby mother and I keep hoping things will get better but, my boyfriend tells me not to expect it.
Please note any help in guiding us legally on how to proceed to these matters would be appreciated.
Thank you