Messages

Lynn, work up totals for both states. If it's less in TX (I suspect that might be the case) then heck, let it be heard there. Hubby can likely appear by phone with prior approval from the judge. If it's less in IA then motion to dismiss since TX has NO jurisdiciton over your husband (such as they lived there as a married couple, children born there etc.) . I'm afraid it's not really as cut & dry as the TX attorney made it sound. Custody/visitation of course is another matter.
Another thing, the duration of child support is one aspect  that can not be modified. If it were think of how many CP's would be flocking to NY or NH.
Good Luck.
KAT

Your theatrics have yet to convince me that you have the best interest of the child in mind. However you have made it VERY clear that you want all the power, control & the money.  Sadly the courts are still rather father bias so it's likely you will get what you desire. Dad will be regulated to nothing more then a visitor & a wallet. Why don't you try asking the child what he/she wants? I bet you would come to find that he would enjoy having both parents equally in his life. You know, the way it was meant to be damnit. Don't you see that the world is going to hell in a handbag because of broken parentless families? Doesn't it bother you that according to statistics children from fatherless households have an extremely high increase of out of wedlock pregnancy, drop out, suicide & incarceration? Apparently the answer is NO. You have yet to make ANY statement that Dad is otherwise unfit to parent the child. The simple answer to what really is in THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD is to offer DAD 50/50 custody with no (or minimal) child support changing hands. But then again financially supporting the child to the best of your OWN ability would be just too burdensome for you. Sad, your child is going to pay for your lack education & career opportunities. Get over yourself & get over the fear of not having a husband to financially depend on before you kiddo suffers.
KAT

Does she own a house? If so I'd ask the a judgment for the arrears then slap a lien on it. Forget the rest of c/s, it's hardly worth you time or your sanity. Have the hag sign off on seeing the kids when they wish not when she wants. Heck, they already know what she is!
DH could have way lowered his c/s to the ex once the oldest emancipated. But you know, for the hell it would have caused him going to court & seeing her ugly moonpie face (listening to her lies, her lies, her lies!!), he just paid her fully for the next 18 months until it was over. It's been a year now.
You'll breath a sigh of relief once you make a firm decsion on this...but the trama (I swear it's PTSD!!!) lasts alot longer then one thinks. I think someone should write a book on it.
I wish you luck!!!!
KAT

Nah, I wouldn't pay her another dime over the COURT ORDER.  Why would you? It's in the COURT ORDER after all!! It would now be on HER to file a motion to *show cause* or *amend & review* or whatever it is in your state. Then sit back & let her tell the judge why junior failed a grade *snicker*...if it was a just one class then I give you permission to laugh out loud & request attorney fees. Most states won't even listen to her motion unless it was filed six month's PRIOR to the end of her income...whoops I mean child support check.
Now, what are you doing to celebrate the end of your husband's slavery?
I seriously want to know!
KAT

Frankly, I wouldn't call it forgiveness I would simply state that both parties agree that amount of arrears have been paid in full. I wouldn't  state the amount of the agreement either.  Both parties notorize it, send it to the courts for the judges signature then send a certified copy to CSE. Of course they want you to go thru them....if no one did they wouldn't have jobs. In addition they lose their federal dollars for collection of the arrears (even if technically they didn't collect).
KAT

Okay, that's it I pass. You all are right. Excuse me. Sheezz, I only lived thru the entire ordeal in an income share state where imputing the biotrolls income proved to INCREASE Mr. Kat's support obligation. But what in the heck do I know. Thank you all for running arbitary numbers to prove that you are right. Did you bother to take into consideration the amount of parenting time? Who pays for medical insurance & how much? Are both parents holding medical? Daycare? If there is more then one child in the home being a sibling, half sibling or? Travel expense? Guess not huh? Because if you had....ah well.
This board has really gone to heck with such bitterness in the past year. I think I'm done here.
KAT

You see some states use what they call *income share*. So if the NCP makes 3,000 & the CP makes 2,000 per month the total available to support the children is 5k. BUT if the CP has zippo, zero income then it's only 3,000. This of course all depends on how the court divides up the parenting time & other factors but yes, sometimes not bothering to have the judge impute the wages of willfully unemployed CP is sometimes beneficial. That is why I highly suggested to the poster to work it out both ways.
KAT

Since no one lives in the state of origination or even in the state where there was previous modification you can try to have the current state (that does have jurisdiction) release it to CA (which might save you a few bucks) or to where you live now in Maine (I think Maine is on the high side of support). Work up the cs using both state guidelines; see where you would benefit the most.
Also, when you work up the guidelines try imputing your ex's income & also give her zero income. It's strange but sometimes when states use income share it's occasionally beneficial to the NCP for the CP to have zero income. Fair, heck no. Frankly I feel that if the shoe fits for one, it should fit for the other. If one party refuses to financially support the children then they should lose custody.
Are you allowed any tax deductions for the children? If not, modification is the time to ask the judge to throw you a bone! Ask for both deductions & you just might get one!
Request that your ex be responsible for the first $500 of unpaid medical bills per child per year.
Request that your child support be abated during the summer months while the children are with you.
Ask for everything you can think of...you might get 1/4 of it.
Then, once the kids turn 18 sue her for 50% of the child support you paid to her. BOTH parents are financially responsible (just check your court order!!!) but you ended up paying 100%. Time to get that money back!
Motion to show cause (contempt) for missed visitation. See if the judge will make her responsible for 100% of the transportation since she is the one that created such a huge distance.
These are boys right? Well you know once they start to reach a certain age the judge could take their wish to live with you into consideration....a little bribery..Oh well! :)
KAT

Ah heck, our biotroll was thousands in arrears when she was awarded custody...and that was after DH had to fight with CSE to FIND his records & serve the hag for several years before he was awarded 80.00 per month for 2 kids. The judge stated "I'm not going to force her to pay you ANY of the arrears. Can YOU NOT see that she is indigent and needs YOUR money to pay her bills!" Heck, we are talking about a 35 year old woman here but who would have thought huh? Then the judge asked me how much I made since it was obvious she (judge) didn't feel that 2k per month was enough to support the two teenage brats AND the ex cow. It was so bad, so horribly bias that if she had the power the judge would have ordered Hubby to give the ex our house & our cars. She had obvious hate for both of us (she put me out in the hallway once during the trial) and felt very sorry for the large spotted brown cow in bright pink matching sweats (yes, in court, gotta' reek of poverty & frantically remove all those facial piercing before entering the court room) with tears dripping down her moon pie face *sniffle*.  Of course it would have cost more then what it was worth to appeal and the judge knew that when she made her ruling. This is one bias judge that really really needs to be removed from the bench. It has happened before in Virginia Beach and it won't be the last either.

On a lighter note c/s was terminated in Sept. & bio was arrested in Nov. for prostitution. I actually feel sorry for any of the poor fools that touched her...I'm guessing she takes her teeth out.  Of course she skated on that charge too with only a small fine & 10 days out of 10 suspended. This woman will never do jail time, never. She has a record as long as my arm....it is just incredible. If it was me I'd probably be doing life as a habitual criminal or sumptin'.

KAT

Since biomom is licking at the government cheese the state is going to go after biodad for child support regardless of his employment status and regardless of their agreement. This money will go to pay back the taxpayers who where forced to pay out welfare benefits including paying for the birth of the baby. Biomom would probably see only a small fraction, usually $50 or so a month after the state collects its share. Biodad is going to find himself thousands in the hole very shortly.
Why are you getting messed with these two irresponsible parties? My suggestion to you...RUN.
KAT