My son has learned from an early age that he needs to basically look out for himself. I know his 11 year old sister will look out for him when she is there (she's not my child, but they have had a relationship since day one and her mother and I used to be friends). He won't not obey his father...it goes against what he's been taught that daddy is the boss when he's with him and mommy is the boss when he is with her. What he does do is tell me...I think because he's 1) trying to figure out just how bad this is, and 2) wants me to intervene on his behalf. I will tell him not to go retrieve balls from the street, to go get his dad or another adult for that. This is a child who, when a toddler, held his pee for 8 or 9 hours all day while with his dad because he didn't want to have to ask to pee in front of him. We've had issues with proper feeding as well (so I sent snacks in our son's backpack so when he got hungry he would have something to eat). He's getting older at least, and more responsible and I know that, even at 6 years old, he's got a really good head on his shoulders. He just feels apparently somewhat powerless over this situation with his dad and getting his needs met. He has two car seats, but when he comes to pick up our son, usually only one of the other boys is in the car...so at the time of pick up there IS a car seat for him...just not after he's gotten the third child for the back seat. The 11 year old sits up front.
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Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.
~ James Allen
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Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.
~ James Allen