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#51
Visitation Issues / Offering alcohol to 7 year old
Last post by Morale5 - Mar 02, 2020, 08:36:56 PM
My 7 year old came home saying his dad put a beer bottle to his mouth and told him to try beer. What can I do? I am not comfortable knowing that is happening. Do I need proof to report to CPS?
#52
Father's Issues / Re: Travelling outside the cou...
Last post by russelldknight - Feb 16, 2020, 04:27:50 AM
I'm a divorce lawyer and I wrote an article about this exact issue.

rdklegal.com/travel-outside-of-the-country-with-your-children-after-a-chicago-illinois-divorce
#53
Custody Issues / Re: Child Support
Last post by ocean - Dec 17, 2019, 02:32:55 PM
So he is no longer working there?File against son (ugh) and they will threaten his license or a few nights in jail. As soon as you find out the next job, give info to CS office and see if they can at least get a payment or two in before he quits again. Sad you are still going through this....
#54
Custody Issues / Re: Child Support
Last post by dipper - Dec 17, 2019, 07:13:28 AM
Thanks Ocean.  I have not tried that.   I spoke with the child support enforcement agency just now and they said they typically wait 30 to 45 days and then send a compliance letter stating to the employer that they are in noncompliance and will be held liable for any amounts they are not sending in.   I am just defeated with this process.  It began in April...was finally made into an order in September.  As soon as a garnishment was sent out, he quit his job.   This is against my son.   And I will file in court against him myself if need be.   


I would file against his employer in a heart beat if I could.   
#55
Custody Issues / Re: Child Support
Last post by ocean - Dec 16, 2019, 05:04:53 PM
Have you tried a strong worded letter to the child support state address (enforcement)? Something like you know ex works at xx and that the employer is not sending in the court ordered amount as per there order? I had this issue but it was with the feds social security. I wrote a strong letter stating that the two agencies need to get their act together or I was bringing it to court. They fixed the issue. LOLI know my state has a letter to send to the employer and then it is up to employer to say person does not work there.
I would think thought that def yes, you can sue the employer for not taking out the wages as per court order but might have to come from the state since they are the ones collecting? Might be worth an appt with the state child support office. We can do at certain times and just show up or make appt.Good luck!
#56
Custody Issues / Child Support
Last post by dipper - Dec 16, 2019, 12:31:38 PM
If an employer refuses to garnish an employees wages for child support, would you be able to take the employer to court?  I know years ago with Socrateaser's advice, we took an employer to court for a garnishment they refused to uphold and the employer had to pay the portion they did not withhold.  I am wondering if you can do that for child support.   
#57
Visitation Issues / Re: Can't speak to child priva...
Last post by ocean - Dec 04, 2019, 03:07:02 PM
Pick you battles.....They are getting older and soon will have cell phones and will walk away on their own. You can text them soon too.

You could file in court to have mother not interfere with phone calls (but will it actually stop her)?You can ask to have counseling and have calls when kids go to the office.
Send them letters with the phone calls so they get mail, another form of communication.

Do you have contact with the kids school/teachers? Many schools/teachers have websites and apps they talk to parents on (Remind app is one of them used here). Ask the teachers if you can be added so you have info to talk to kids about.
Keep trying and just ignore ex trying to butt in. Talk about school, activities, upcoming next trips....
You can try sending ex a certified letter stating "ex, I have been trying to communicate with the kids but you have been taking over the conversations when I am trying to speak to them. If you continue to interfere with the communications with the kids, I will be forced to seek court intervention. The kids need both parents in their life and I try my best to keep communication open even with the long distances between us. "  Something like that....but pick your battles and only you know if you should spend time and money on this.

Good luck!

#58
Visitation Issues / Re: Can't speak to child priva...
Last post by sprocket - Dec 04, 2019, 09:53:27 AM
They are 12 and 9.
#59
Visitation Issues / Re: Can't speak to child priva...
Last post by ocean - Dec 01, 2019, 03:03:05 PM
How old are the children?
#60
Visitation Issues / Re: Can't speak to child priva...
Last post by sprocket - Dec 01, 2019, 10:16:19 AM
Wow, this thing has had 17 views but no responses?  I've searched the forum and can't find the answer anywhere.  Any suggestions at all?