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#61
Visitation Issues / Can't speak to child privately
Last post by sprocket - Nov 29, 2019, 09:05:51 PMHello everyone! I am surprised by how little recent activity there is here. I hope someone is still reading!
My questions seems to relate to visitation. I have 50/50 custody but live thousands of miles from my ex, who has full time placement. I only see my kids once a year. The rest of the time all I have is the phone/facetime.
My ex is always in the same room as my kids when I am talking to them. The ex not only listens, but also interferes. If I mention any subject the ex finds sensitive, the ex butts in and takes over the call. I can tell my kids are not speaking freely in front of the ex. I've addressed the issue with my ex repeatedly to no avail. Do I really have to go to court to have the ex told that I can have private conversations with my own kids?
My questions seems to relate to visitation. I have 50/50 custody but live thousands of miles from my ex, who has full time placement. I only see my kids once a year. The rest of the time all I have is the phone/facetime.
My ex is always in the same room as my kids when I am talking to them. The ex not only listens, but also interferes. If I mention any subject the ex finds sensitive, the ex butts in and takes over the call. I can tell my kids are not speaking freely in front of the ex. I've addressed the issue with my ex repeatedly to no avail. Do I really have to go to court to have the ex told that I can have private conversations with my own kids?
#62
Father's Issues / Re: Parental Alienation
Last post by ocean - Nov 19, 2019, 02:33:33 PMWow! we could make that same exact video....scary and sad. The kids lose in the end and the PB never see what they did.
#63
Father's Issues / Parental Alienation
Last post by daveb3216 - Nov 19, 2019, 07:37:20 AMNow that my kids are all grown, I decided to repost an updated video of my dramatic parental alienation story. It's a behind the scenes look at how children can be manipulated into hating one of their parents.
https://youtu.be/9_LSRfRS8Yc
https://youtu.be/9_LSRfRS8Yc
#64
Father's Issues / Re: Travelling outside the cou...
Last post by ocean - Sep 11, 2019, 02:58:55 PMHi,You would have to ask for a change in visitation to include a specific vacation. Something like: "father would like to bring child on vacation to xxx for xx days next summer. He is willing to give the mother/courts full itenrary with flight information, daily access to child by phone/facetime. This would be in the best interests of child to see father's family. Mother will give father passport for this trip.
Not sure if you will win this but you can file yourself usually without court fees at the family court where your papers were filed the very first time. Good luck!
Not sure if you will win this but you can file yourself usually without court fees at the family court where your papers were filed the very first time. Good luck!
#65
Father's Issues / Travelling outside the country...
Last post by alexmat1 - Sep 11, 2019, 01:27:10 PMHello all,
I am a Father who has minor custody (on weekends) with the mother sharing the major part of the custody. I am not a US Citizen and is a Resident now. Mother is a US citizen. All my family lives in another country and I would like to take my child on a vacation outside of the US to this country. To all those who been through this, this country is a non Hague country. Mother refuses to let me travel with the child citing that I wont come back or I might kidnap the child although I have cooperated respectfully with the custody rules so far. Child is 5 years old.
Has anyone been in such situation, were you able to achieve this through the courts ? Are courts sympathetic to Fathers need to take an international vacation with the child. Are there any bonds I can execute to proove to the court that I will come back ?
Thanks
Alex
I am a Father who has minor custody (on weekends) with the mother sharing the major part of the custody. I am not a US Citizen and is a Resident now. Mother is a US citizen. All my family lives in another country and I would like to take my child on a vacation outside of the US to this country. To all those who been through this, this country is a non Hague country. Mother refuses to let me travel with the child citing that I wont come back or I might kidnap the child although I have cooperated respectfully with the custody rules so far. Child is 5 years old.
Has anyone been in such situation, were you able to achieve this through the courts ? Are courts sympathetic to Fathers need to take an international vacation with the child. Are there any bonds I can execute to proove to the court that I will come back ?
Thanks
Alex
#66
Custody Issues / Re: Hi all! I'm grandparent se...
Last post by ocean - Jul 05, 2019, 07:28:28 AMDid father serve you custody papers? If this hearing is for your child support, then that is what the judge will want to hear and not deal with custody until papers are in front of him. Does dad have/take any visitation now?
#67
Custody Issues / Re: Hi all! I'm grandparent se...
Last post by paternalgma - Jul 04, 2019, 02:54:25 PMThe child is now 8. Father now claiming he wants custody, but really doesn't wish to pay CS. I have an order for CS against biomom for $199 monthly as of Jan 2019.
Thanks for the suggestions and well wishes!
Thanks for the suggestions and well wishes!
#68
Custody Issues / Re: Hi all! I'm grandparent se...
Last post by ocean - Jul 04, 2019, 07:29:14 AMAre the parents fighting for custody now? How old is child? At any point you can ask to stop hearing and say you would like time to get lawyer. Also, you may qualify for free legal aid at family court. In my state, the state child support office will file child support for you if you have anything saying you had custody now. Good luck!
#69
Custody Issues / Hi all! I'm grandparent seekin...
Last post by paternalgma - Jul 03, 2019, 09:02:08 PMNot sure if I'm doing this right, but it stated at the top to create an introductory post.
I am a grandmother that filed (Jan 19) for sole legal and physical custody of the grandchild that I have been raising over 8 years.
Parents showed little interest until I filed for CS last year.
I can't afford an attorney so I am going pro se'. My case involves 3 states.
Wish me luck!
I am a grandmother that filed (Jan 19) for sole legal and physical custody of the grandchild that I have been raising over 8 years.
Parents showed little interest until I filed for CS last year.
I can't afford an attorney so I am going pro se'. My case involves 3 states.
Wish me luck!
#70
Father's Issues / Drug testing
Last post by OhKscorpion - Jun 28, 2019, 03:33:00 AMI experienced a situation where CPS/CWS whatever it may be called where you live. The Child Protective Service Worker asked to do a hair test for drug and of course, used the standard "if you don't agree I will just ask the judge and it look bad. Or however, it was phrased because the mother agreed. About a week and a half later the test result came back.
One child was 4 and the other 7, the four-year-old test revealed enough meth in her system to indicating a daily user and the seven-year-old an occasional user. I only knew these kid because a close fined babysat them almost every day.
I visited my friend daily and I saw the kids daily and there was no way these kids had been taking meth or exposed to the amount of meth that CPS was reporting; I knew because of the fact these kids slept most the time I was around and when they were awake they weren't bouncing off the walls but watching TV mostly.
So after a great deal of time and research, this is what I discovered and I was shocked that so many attorneys buy into this sham.
1) there are no certified hair drug testing labs. Yes, often times the hair sample is sent to a lab which is certified by the Feds to do drug testing but since hair testing has not been approved for use, the labs that are certified sent the sample to a lab that is not (just to keep their certification 'clean'.
The labs that do the hair testing only confirm the presence of meth it is up to the client to make a determination of the results. Especially when it comes to juveniles the reason being the growth of children's hair varies so much and there has been very little scientific research on children (seems most governments have a problem with giving meth to children even in the name of research.
2) courts can only order a drug which is approved for use by the Department of Transportation who rely the FDA to certify the labs to meet the necessary standards.
BUT, if you agree to the request of CPS then you have cooked your own problems because the court is more than happy to accept any test you and CPS agree to. If you want to validate my facts a good place to start is Omega labs they seem to do a lot of testing for the courts and then ask your local court system about what test can they order someone to take, if that makes you feel uneasy use the internet and start with, what type drug testing is used by interstate truck drivers.
I just hate to see people fooled by anyone. I don't care for meth users driving huge trucks along beside me on the freeway and if the hair testing keeps being abused then it never be approved for use in the courts.
One child was 4 and the other 7, the four-year-old test revealed enough meth in her system to indicating a daily user and the seven-year-old an occasional user. I only knew these kid because a close fined babysat them almost every day.
I visited my friend daily and I saw the kids daily and there was no way these kids had been taking meth or exposed to the amount of meth that CPS was reporting; I knew because of the fact these kids slept most the time I was around and when they were awake they weren't bouncing off the walls but watching TV mostly.
So after a great deal of time and research, this is what I discovered and I was shocked that so many attorneys buy into this sham.
1) there are no certified hair drug testing labs. Yes, often times the hair sample is sent to a lab which is certified by the Feds to do drug testing but since hair testing has not been approved for use, the labs that are certified sent the sample to a lab that is not (just to keep their certification 'clean'.
The labs that do the hair testing only confirm the presence of meth it is up to the client to make a determination of the results. Especially when it comes to juveniles the reason being the growth of children's hair varies so much and there has been very little scientific research on children (seems most governments have a problem with giving meth to children even in the name of research.
2) courts can only order a drug which is approved for use by the Department of Transportation who rely the FDA to certify the labs to meet the necessary standards.
BUT, if you agree to the request of CPS then you have cooked your own problems because the court is more than happy to accept any test you and CPS agree to. If you want to validate my facts a good place to start is Omega labs they seem to do a lot of testing for the courts and then ask your local court system about what test can they order someone to take, if that makes you feel uneasy use the internet and start with, what type drug testing is used by interstate truck drivers.
I just hate to see people fooled by anyone. I don't care for meth users driving huge trucks along beside me on the freeway and if the hair testing keeps being abused then it never be approved for use in the courts.