Must Move, Daughter wants to go, Mother Opposed

[CustodyIQ]

Hi,

In the end, only you can look at all factors and decide what path is the best overall for everything.  Even with the new information, I still think my considerations are valid.

Of course, it's easy for me to speak so rationally and straightforward when I'm not in the situation feeling the pressures you experience daily.

That said...

I think it would be a potentially HUGE mistake for you to join your ex at the counselor.

This person has a 2 year relationship with your ex.  If you haven't gone before, this therapist can't really testify against you.

If you go, the therapist will be able to offer an opinion about you.

It sounds odd (your word) because it IS odd that your ex wants to suddenly rush to a counselor with you.

I really don't see anything good coming from it.

Overall, I'm just very very concerned for you that you may not get temporary orders for child to move with you.  If you lose that (or if your ex succeeds in temporary orders), it gets hairy.  You don't want to lose the custody that you have, and you don't want your daughter suddenly disappearing and hitchhiking to find you (or deciding she is peeved at you too and disappearing to someone else's home).

I strongly suggest you consult with an attorney (even if Socrateaser on the other board) to give you a best-approach gameplan IF you're deciding to move in 3-4 weeks.

[olanna]

I think she should go with you.  Why would you worry about supporting someone that you obviously aren't having a relationship with anymore?

Best to both of you.