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AUSSIE any news yet????

Started by wendl, Sep 22, 2004, 07:41:30 PM

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aussierules

Good question Kitty.

I think that if truth be told that the problem probably started with mum's parents. They are an average couple who probably did not and do not have a great marriage and while their daughter felt that they had a perfect home life the evidence now appears to present this in a contrary light. Dad has a more than passing interest in hard core pornography. He writes letter and articles for that type of periodical and the mum is quite proud of him for doing it at least outwardly.

At court mum decided not to put her father on the stand. He has quite a bad temper and cannot disguise his loathing especially of me. The mum is usually more mediated but not at court. She cried and choked back a host of tears and gagging sounds. She claimed she had hated me for many years and that she knew secretly that I was a pedophile. If mum's mum was to be believed I was a prolific masturbator. Of course it begs the question why put up with it for years and say and do nothing and then all of a sudden right after your daughter is found to have multiple personality disorders come out of the closet and make outrageous allegations against the father.

Mum's younger sister is a little odd also. She has a horrible self image and married a Saudi citizen a few years back and now lives behind 2 veils somewhere out in the deserts of Saudi Arabia unable to see her own family. This has driven mum's parents closer to her as they have next to no relationship with daughter #2. The two sisters have similar pathologies if you will. Both overweight, both underachievers, both think they are entitled to something more because of who they are. They are really not so different although my child's mother (the eldest) thinks that she is significantly smarter than the other daughter. She even made some quite rude observations of her sibling in her psychological eval ordered by our judge.

The lesson here I think is that mum's mum wants to help her daughter and she thinks that she is doing the right thing. She is in as much denial as her child and cannot see the wood for the trees which is sad because she is hurting her grandchild whom she claims to love. I think she does but she thinks she is helping the situation when in reality she is so blind to the reality of events that she is causing more hurt. I felt sad for her really because my "average" attorney even made her look like the liar she was. She claimed I dressed my daughter up as a stripper and that she was frightened for her safety. When a parent's love for their child is so great they can direct hate anywhere is the lesson that I learned.

While the court appointed psychologist believes that mum is no danger to the child or herself he does think she is unwell. He cannot find any delusional behavior which is useful for lockdown but tells us that mum is a malicious woman who will stop at nothing to try and make the state prison my new home. I am not sure what this might be in AZ but the reality is the ONLY relief I will get is at the hands of my family court judge whether I like it or not.

AUSSIE OUT

aussierules

I have reviewed this with my FTC - Mr Tong and my attorney. I have a PI who is at the ready should we get wind of a decision. My attorney is aware of my concern and if we believe that I am going to get a ruling that will irritate mum we are asking that it be made available when I have my child. Clearly I do not want mum going underground. Mr Tong has resources out of country who can assist but in country it would be more difficult to do believe it or not. As unstable as mum is lately this is not such an "out there" question. I have contingency plans to take care of this should mum try to run but no plan in infallible of course.

AUSSIE OUT

aussierules

Thank you. I am sorry for my tardiness in getting back to you all. I have been working on some related issues tied to my daughter's therapist that make the actions taken by her more explicable. I will likely explain in a separate post or reply to a question about the therapist so it is not taken out of context. Again, thank you for all of your thoughts.

AUSSIE OUT