AUSSIE any news yet????

[wendl]

Still praying for your  family.

:)

**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**

[Stepmom0418]

We were wondering the same thing!! Actually I had asked someone else that posts here the same question earlier today in an email.

And we are still praying too!

[nosonew]

Fingers and toes still crossed!  -Noso

[skye]

Thoughts and prayers your way

[aussierules]

I realize I have not been on much of late. I am dealing with mum's new and bizarre behaviors on a daily basis. We are still waiting on word from the judge. It has been about 30 days but in Arizona it can take at least 60 days before one gets any kind of rulings although even at that time it is somewhat difficult to push the judge to hurry up and usually is not a good idea to boot. I have continued my dialogue with court appointed psychologist to try and figure out how to deal best with mum. He thinks a Family Court Advisor (FCA) would be helpful because they would not allow mum to do what she is doing. However in the next breath he says that one cannot negotiate with a borderline like my child's mother so I am not sure what to think.

I took my daughter to soccer this last weekend as I had her. Mum of course did not show up which was really good and bad. Good because it meant no confrontation but bad because my daughter wanted her to be there to support her. She did not even pick up her phone after the game so my child could tell her how great she did at the game. It is sad when her disease prevents her from enjoying in her child's accomplishments but that may be a major leap from where we are today if I think about it with a clear head.

Mum did take my child out of school last week to see the therapist who stated in court that she was done. More of the same of course but the part that pissed me off was that she took her out of a school day to do it when she had been told repeatedly by all parties not to do so. I guess the therapist is not blameless because she should have known not to do that either if she really was thinking of my daughter's welfare as her first & foremost priority. I guess we know what is in her head don't we? My attorney has written to the GAL & mum's counsel to try and get some movement on some of the more pressing issues that mum refuses to talk about like educational activities etc. but so far no word which is probably not that surprising given mum's demeanor of late.

The upcoming Halloween holiday is turning out to be quite a problem. Mum has announced that she will make unilateral change to the custody calendar if I do not give her what she wants. I am going to hold my position because if I do not she will figure out what it will take to get me to back down in the future. Dr. T says that this is part of the disease and I just need not to dialogue with her about it and do it. This may mean we have to get the police involved in a civil standby role to deal with the custodial interference. I think mum belives I will not do it but the time for backing down is not now. I wish she would think of her child first and not her desire to hurt me.

I will try to revisit the board more often and as SOON as I have word from the court one way or another I will post.

AUSSIE OUT

[Stepmom0418]

Thanks for the update and so you know......you and your presious little one are in our prayers daily!!

[aussierules]

Thank you for your kind words. This process has been hard on my little girl and me. I came to this board originally just to share my story and I think I found something more than what I had expected. I am sorry that I have put you all on hold but this is justice Arizona style. I am of the belief that mum will continue to dig more holes and throw more dirt and it will ONLY stop when our judge says enough is enough. The interesting thing is that mum still refuses to accept that she is not well. However when I raised the issue with the court appointed psychologist he simply said that I needed to accept that she may never accept it and she may never get well. That is truly sad for my little girl and means that the road ahead will be a long and winding one for me.

Sorry to the Fab4 from the Mother County for that horrible use of their great words.

AUSSIE OUT

[Kitty C.]

I agree.  Doesn't the mother have any family who can intervene....or are they all as sick as she is and are in denial, too?  I mean, if she goes too far (off the deep end, so to speak), she can be held by an involuntary committment for like up to 72 hours, then it goes before a judge (family, friends, doctors involved with inv. comm.) to decide whether it needs to be extended or the patient agrees to treatment on their own.  I know in CA, it's called a 5150.....I don't know what it's called in other states.  

[Stepmomnow]

Hi Aussie

I hate to even ask, but are you worried that if the decision is in your favor, mum will grab your daughter and just run?  Any precautions you can take?  

That would be so horrible....

[wendl]

Aussie we will continue to pray for your family and mum.

:)

**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**