non custodial parent w/BPD

[backwardsbike]

Or maybe you can get documentation from the school.  Tell the guidance counselor what the child told you.  Tell them that you are concerned.  Let them know that this is what youe children have told you but that you really don't know and are wondering if they would let you know if they see anything that is of concern to them.

 If they believe you then they will be watching.  Kids who live in that type of environment sometimes are fearful, shy, they may be going to school hungry because she's not cooking.  Teachers are also mandated reporters so if they suspect- that is suspect, not have proof of abuse they must report it to child line.

If a report comes from a third party like a teacher or docotr it will be given more weight than coming from a parent in a custody dispute.  If the parent makes the complaint you are told, " Well, that is just the other parent's parenting style.".

[pennyrwalker]

Yes!  That is what CPS basicly told us.  She (the BPD mom) even told the CPS guy that I (step-mom) had issues with her and that I tried to run her off the road.  She had made the same complaint to the cops who just blew it off.  It is NOT TRUE! But, I guess the CPS guy believed it.  He didn't even come to our house, he called and spoke to my husband on the phone for 5 minutes AFTER I called to ask the status of the case and if he was going to speak with us.  CPS thinks that it is typical custody fight issues I guess.